Has anyone made emotional intelligence a "special interest"?

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Has anyone tried this? Making emotional intelligence an all-consuming interest, reading up on it all you can, and practicing it regularly, etc.?
I've read many books on behavioural science inclusive of emotional intelligence...so I have had an interest in it that yielded improvements, but I still have lapses of judgement and can make the odd silly mistake.

If you used this approach, did you notice a difference in interactions with others, e.g. less hostility or derision from them, more acceptance, compliments even? Or did they still pick up on something "off" like an uncanny valley or "trying too hard"?

I think even though we have the capacity to absorb a lot of info on emotional intelligence - by reading Daniel Goleman, Dale Carnegie, the Harvard Business Review series, and certain fiction authors like Chekhov - it's the practicing of it that might be challenging at times. As you know, those of us with ASD/HFA may have higher IQ on average as compared to NTs, we have lower than average crystallized intelligence - which is the ability to synthesize and apply the knowledge we pick up.

But, as long as it steers us towards a more fulfilling life with better interpersonal outcomes, I have been and always will be for studying EI... as Daniel Goleman said time and again, a higher EQ is correlated with higher success in life and more so than IQ. Even in academic settings. This certainly explains my high school days, anyways, when I was only around an average achiever b/c I was so demoralized by my exclusion from others, the depression of past bullying, and the anxiety of what the future held. Imagine how much more such an individual could achieve had they been equipped with the tools to be accepted...then the morale for higher achievement would go up.

I don't. At least not to a point as a special interest.
But there's some aspie or so in YouTube who seem to pursuit the practice of emotional intelligence relevant to those with aspergers.




My personal question would be this, if someone ever bothered answering:
What IS emotional intelligence and/or executive function without regulation(automatic/instinctive or manual, natural or not); emotional, sensory, physical/hormonal/biochemical or otherwise?

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I don't see the point, so no.

I’m interested in being emotionally intelligent....but I don’t believe I would benefit much from reading about it.

Dale Carnegie doesn’t do much for me.

I have an EQ of only 35 ( took the test twice and same result). I got Dale Carnegie's book as a gift and haven't even read chapter one yet.
Whenever I read about emotions I need to reread it again. Even then I'm not always sure I understand it. I want to, but feel very detached from the words. Sound made up.

Yes, but I can't do it in real time.

Essentially yes, I think I've tried to research how to improve my emotional intelligence. I don't know if I'd count it as a special interest, but I'd say it came out of another special interest I had, which prompted me to want to learn more about how other humans function socially and behaviourally.

It's been somewhat helpful, I did go from a EQ of 15-18 or so a couple years ago to 29 recently, and it's been somewhat easier to socialize with and understand other people. Not massively, though, and it's not easy for me to properly utilize everything I've learned since my brain obviously is wired differently than other people. I'd say it might have even made interactions with people more stressful and sometimes end up worse off since they expect a lot more out of me now.

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