Parents/family don't like me because I have Autism.

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Not sure how too expand upon this, my family doesn't like me because I'm autistic. My opinions and validations don't matter too them, also looked down by them because I don't drive and work minimum wage I'm looked at as a failure. They wouldn't even get me tested as a teen until I got diagnosed as a young adult. I live with my friend and the thoughts of being a failure and being disliked by family. Anyone else have this issue as well?

I think it has less to do with you, and more that your family in general, are not very nice people.

I'm really sorry you are going through this and I'm sorry that I can't offer you any advice as I've never been in your situation. All I can do is echo the words of the person above you saying this isn't your fault and is to do with their mindset. Please don't blame yourself for things out of your control and I hope another member can be of more help.

If your family is at least somewhat kind and understanding, you could try talking to them. Tell them you are unhappy and it's hard to live that way.

If you don't think they will listen, understand, or respond to you, then you can just avoid them and work on moving out someday.

I think it possible you have already started the first steps to improve the situation by moving out of family home and living with a friend, some You have chosen to have in your life and who has chosen to have your around theirs.

I think it possible in your friend you are finding a person to whome your opinions do matter, and I suspect you probably value theirs as well.

I'm quite used to my opinions and proofs being ignored, not because I'm AS per se, but because the logic it confers clashes with other ways of understanding the world to muddle through life in the middle of the herd. I just spent a couple of days trying to get an engineer to re-read his text books, but he's used to doing it "the regular way" and does not want a better one, even with major, obvious benefits. I gave up on my family long ago, but even the big sample of people turned up little understanding. It is quite rare to find an opinion that is well thought out - people usually acquire them through something more akin to osmosis, so bringing in logic can be like a bull in the china shop - banned on sight.

I went through the same thing growing up particularly as a teenager, always comparing too.

My situation was slightly unusual in that my mother found out from my older brother that I was being picked on for being “weird” so was from then on called “weird” whenever she had a problem with me.

Moving out is the best thing you can do to improve your mental health and maybe even your relationship with them.

Same goes with me, when I was young they noticed I was introverted and had some symptoms and they didn't bother get me tested, they just started calling me ret*d and they do to this day. I plan on leaving after I graduate and to learn how to mask until I get my degree in order to make it easier to fit in society. Whenever I say something they laughbut I figured out they are mean to everyone so it's not my fault and it's probably the same with your family.

I'm glad you live with your friend, it shouldn't bother you anymore, do what makes you happy.

ya totally agree