Has anyone point-blank said "I don't like you"?

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Or, "I don't like your kind" or something of the sort?? (In adulthood, not childhood.)

Of course, in true NT fashion, 90% of the "I don't like you" sentiment conveyed by others will be nonverbal...which we miss, or perhaps deliberately shut out on some level, to blunt the emotional pain we've suffered beyond the typical person.

But when it comes to that 10% of cases where a somewhat antagonistic individual says it to your face, how do you respond?

I can't recall very well a time it happened to me verbally in adulthood, but I would have diffused it in a more neutral or subtle turn-the-tables manner, like "well, if there's one thing I've learned in life, nobody is going to like everyone they meet... that's something I've come to accept as part of emotional maturity."

You could also self-deprecate and say "well, it's true that I was never cut out to be a politician or a car salesman, but maybe that's a good thing...at least I'm not gonna try to BS you or take advantage of you"

That’s probably a good way to approach it.

It’s certainly better than feeling sorry for yourself and thinking the whole world is against you.

No not in adulthood. I've had people show it through their actions but not asserted it.

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I've had people tell me, "You're weird" and "There's something wrong with you."

I did myself more times than I would've count.


No surprises if someone shares the sentiment.

I can sense anyone who doesn't like me specifically -- from those who doesn't like everyone in general, or those who just happened to be easily crossed, or just someone in concern yet conveys more impatience than hate, or just plain antagonistic towards whatever type anyone or myself happened to be in.

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I always feel hurt when someone doesn't like me - unless it's for a valid reason. But if it's for no reason, I don't see why one wouldn't like you, and I think that if there isn't a reason not to like you then that person is just very shallow or judgemental.

If I'd had an argument with someone and we often clashed and just didn't get on, I wouldn't feel so sensitive about them not liking me. But if I am always nice to somebody and we get on well but they seem to like everyone else more than me, then that's when I do feel hurt.

It's not just a pragmatic case of "you can't be liked by everyone", because most humans only dislike someone for a reason, and also it is quite natural for humans to feel hurt when they sense that someone doesn't like them for no reason.

"I don't like you"

I haven't heard it since childhood. Kids will say this, not adults.


As my mom told me in 7th grade "Not everyone is going to like you" and she is right. I see I won't always get along with everyone and sometimes it's because we both have different perspectives and think too differently so we will never understand each other. Plus I have different communication than they do. I was even surprised when she told me how other moms in our neighborhood didn't like her. I asked her why would someone not like her, she is nice and not mean. She said it was because she would keep confronting them about their kids being mean to me. They didn't like her coming to their house and ringing their doorbell to tell them their kid was involved throwing pinecones over the fence at me. My mom kept doing this until they finally stopped and I can remember my mom telling me when I was 8 "The moms got tired of me coming to their house complaining about their kids throwing pine cones at you so they finally told them to stop so I would quit bugging them about it."

Then when I was 13 she told me this was the reason why she wasn't liked. So I learned then no matter how good you are, someone out there will have a reason to not like you. Maybe it was because you won the spelling bee. Looking back I can see kids didn't like me because I talked funny or acted too different.


As an adult, I can usually tell online when someone doesn't like me but in real life it's tricky.

I have been told "I don't like you", and chances are, I don't care (I do not have enough energy to dislike someone). I would rather someone tell me "I don't like you" then try to play nice with me. As a child, I wanted everyone to like me; as an adult, I could not care less. It's their problem, and not mine. That said, if I am in the wrong, I will attempt to correct it. I can't spend my life trying to please everyone; I will go insane.

I have been called an "as*hole" at work on multiple occasions, usually by two or three women who work in the same department. I have to make some tough decisions and I do not take their emotions or feelings into account and it makes them angry. One told me that they didn't like me and told me to "go to hell". I just laughed and moved on. I do not like being rejected though, but who does?

yes. oh well, can't please everybody, or even anybody but that's alright too. when i am addressed thusly, i consider it safe to not look at them and to get out of their presence in a nonchalant way.

Probably depends on how well you know the person

Sixth grade campers in a summer camp where I worked as their camp counselor told me 'We do not like you' with a sly smile enjoying the cruelty and power play of what they were saying. They could tell I wasn't as social or popular as the other counselors neither among the kids, nor other counselors. The whole camp was really screwed up and that was the norm with popular kids and counselors going around being mean to unpopular kids.

Thus far I don't re anyone telling me that

Maybe forgot

Usually they show they don't like you with their actions and other statements

Everyone is biased

If someone told you "I don't like you", that could be more convenient for you than if they demonstrated it subtly in ways autistics failed to interpret