Asperger undiagnosed

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Hi, yesterday for a joke me and my friends did a autism test, all of them scored between 14 and 17, i scored 32. I did another test on aspie-test and it said that i could have some aspie traits. I didn't know what it means, but then after few research i began thinking about what my behavior has in common with asperger. I'm very shy in social occasion, i have a daily routine that if interrupted drives me angry, i hate the soft touch of my girlfriend, i always sit at the table with the back to the wall, i count the steps on each stairway, i always "write a scheme of action" before doing something new and staff like this.
My communication and intelligence are not compromised.
I'm into boxing, good at it, do you thing if i get diagnosed, i could be limited in my sport? Or in life in general?

I do not see why you would be limited in your sport and in life, though with certain safety critical jobs they may need to know how the condition effects you personally.

What you wrote was kinda similar to my experience in that I was dating a lady who was on the spectrum and I wanted to know what it was because with dating her I needed to know, but when she tried to explain to me how it effected her everything she said in how she thinks except for one thing seemed normal to me! She became frustrated so had me sit an online test and I had a similar result. (I put "No" for things that I did not understand so I think I had a result of 32 or 34. Since I found out what the terms mean and realize I do do things like stimming (But in a more hidden way) I tried the test again and found I had a higher result).
It took me two years to try to ask a doctor because every time I went in to ask I hit mindblank!
For me though, it was my later research to try and find out what was happening to me that led me back to finding out about the autism spectrum, hence why I joined this site. It was the issues called shutdowns (I did not know what was causing them before because I thought it was my body as they effected me in a physical way (See links below) and I would end up on the floor unable to see or move my body. I also had hit burnout many times so I was desperate to find out what was the cause az I could no longer work and did not know how to explain what was happening to doctors.
Well. I am now on the list to be assessed.

A diagnosis has little value unless one intends to obtain some form of government assistance.

Knowing yourself and your own characteristics is much more valuable and is little helped by labels.

If you have some Asperger inclinations, you may find value here from those who have similar characteristics and learn how to manage things a little better.

I see little of value to be obtained by being classified by a so-called expert. There can also be some risk as others who hear of the diagnosis may be inclined to see us in a less favorable light.

A common observation: If you've met one Aspie then you've met one Aspie.

We're all different.

And it sounds like you are navigating your way through life reasonably well. If you aren't looking to be eligible for some formal support then a diagnosis might be of little practical value to you; if you are doing well enough on your own then you might not need or even be eligible for formal support.

The only real benefit I got from my diagnosis (at age 64) was the happiness from finally finding out why I had felt "different" from everyone else. Some younger folk seem to identify the label as being a real disadvantage. They don't like being officially marked as being "different". (Though, a need for formal support might make the label necessary.)

Sports? Maybe you should do some searches on the Internet. You might be pleasantly surprised. (Here's a small start: "5 Top Athletes on the Autism Spectrum".)

People get a diagnosis so they can solve problems that are having living, at work/school, or with relationships. If you are functioning well, then there is no need. However, it is not bad to explore your mind. In my case, it took 56 years before I sought a diagnosis. So, there may come a time in your life you may want to seek a diagnosis.

BTW, I can't see why a diagnosis would prevent you from participating in wrestling. That would be down to your skill. However, there are some career paths in the US where an autism diagnosis can prevent you from joining. Most of those are in the military. You country can be different. I would check.