Are you introvert, shy, both or neither?

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(This may be a bit stupid question)

There are people that confuse introversion with shyness.

Introvert: enjoys time alone and gets emotionally drained after spending a lot of time with others. It's the tendency toward being wholly or predominantly concerned with and interested in one's own mental life.

Shy: is afraid to interact with others. It's a feeling of apprehension, lack of comfort, or awkwardness especially when a person is in proximity to other people, usually referred to as social anxiety or social phobia.

Introverts prefer solitary activities over social ones, whereas shy people (who may be extraverts at heart) avoid social encounters out of fear.

i'm shy and introverted when I don't know anyone but as I get more comtorable I become more extroverted. I'm quiet when I first meet someone or i'm new to a social situation but become more extroverted once I get to know people.

Introverted and not shy. I have never been shy around people, unless suddenly asked to perform a song or something I get anxious. I remember being a toddler and shaking hands with adults and formally introduce myself. Apparently that's not normal for a toddler. We never seem to do things right.

*One of my sons would be "neither" and the other one "both".

I'm very much an introvert and I do need a lot of alone time, and I get exhausted by too much interaction with people.

But when I was a child, teenager and young adult in my 20's, I would say I was also cripplingly shy. At one point I was pretty much a selective mute in school, though normal again at home around family. But my shyness was profound and agonizing for most of my young years, and crippled me socially because even though I was always an introvert, I did desire to have friends. I managed to have a friend but it was usually only one at a time, although that's about all I could handle anyway.

As I got older I learned to break out of my shyness and I really am no longer shy of people -- I can rise to the occasion and seem friendly and outgoing when the situation requires it. But I'm still an introvert and I endeavor to cut the requirement to be sociable out of my life as much as possible.

Recently there was so much going on socially, in the form of a huge amount of sudden, unwanted contact with acquaintances in my life, that I practically had a mini-breakdown and had to take a week off work just to carve out solitary time for myself again, and heal a bit. I'm getting worse effects as I get older, from too much social stuff, to be honest.

Was extremely shy with all people for most of my life ( ages 9-18 ) due to shaming and rejection by others.

I still am shy around some types of people, especially people who I don't trust and who I don't share common interests, personalities, and dispositions. I especially get very clammed up around authoritative, bossy, domineering, negative people. If you put me with the right people, I am not shy and completely in my element.

Will always be introverted and need my own space...that's something that has never changed.

I consider myself both introverted and shy, although I have gradually overcome my shyness the past few years. I've always scored 100% introvert on personality tests, which I think is pretty accurate.

I'm an introvert and only a little bit shy. I don't really notice it anymore.

Introvert. I'm not afraid to interact with anyone, it's just that I have nothing to say. Either that or I'll open my mouth and say the wrong things anyway.

I am introverted. I am honestly not as shy as I used to be when I was little. More often than not, however, I just prefer to spend time by myself.

I am an introvert.

I'm an introvert and can talk when I feel I have/need to, but I'm not afraid of it.

Defiantly introverted
shyness is way better but it still wins sometimes.

im both

Introvert.

I´m both. But my shyness complicates my work , so I try to change it a bit.

Shyness/social anxiety can be managed somewhat through necessity or behavioral therapy. I was quiet and socially anxious during childhood and early adulthood to the point that I acquired the nickname "The Mute" in college. However, as a professional, I have to socially interact and learned to function better. I also did some community theater when I was young, which may have helped somewhat in managing the social phobia.

However, introversion is neurologically hardwired. On the Myers Briggs I score 30, the maximum introversion score, and I score 14 on the EQ. Yet for 13 years I functioned as a reference librarian. I make social skills errors (including the one that recently resulted in my discharge, which I am fighting), but generally am fine interacting with people on a business level.