Do you hate it when people do this?

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When people mutter something then when you don't hear them they shout at you like you're stupid.

I remember at school I used to go to an art club after school sometimes, and one afternoon when I got there a teacher was sitting outside the art room doing something and without making eye contact she muttered "art club isn't on today" without hardly moving her lips. Well, that's what I assume she'd said, but at the time I didn't hear and there was no sign on the door to say it was closed. So when she saw me peering into the art room she shouted, "go home, there is no art club today!!"

Then another time I was getting on the bus and the ticket machine wasn't working. Again without looking or barely moving his lips he muttered something and I didn't hear him so I stood there like an idiot waiting for him to print out a bus ticket and he shouted, "it's not working!!"

There's no need to shout, because if these people just at least made eye contact and spoke more clearly or more friendly-like then I'd be able to hear them the first time. We haven't all got super hearing. Has this happened to anyone else?

(And no sarcastic responses to me, please).

Yeah....it can certainly be a pain in the butt.....

People are just weird sometimes!

This is one of the things that has always pissed me off. Particularly when people act like I'm dumb for not hearing them.

I think a contributing factor is also the fact a lot of autistic people have issues with verbal/auditory processing. I certainly do and it can be very annoying when someone acts like I'm being rude or stupid, just because it takes me an extra few seconds to process what they said. People can be so impatient.

I think everyone sometimes has verbal/auditory processing issues but I seem to have it the most when I'm not expecting someone to say something. But I think it's to do more with whether they mumble effortlessly or if it's just to do with my hearing.
But people don't always hear me if I mumble, although I don't shout at them like they're stupid.

I probably come off as the other person in this scenario more often, because I know I’m quiet so if someone asks me to repeat myself, I figure I was probably too quiet (especially when I have to repeat myself three or more times, which is fairly often), and I can really only manage volume or tone of voice, not both at the same time, so I sound much more irritated or whatever than I actually am when I have to repeat myself.

I'm not sure.
Unless one is familiar enough, one does not simply yell at anyone in such tone for said reasons.

Meaning, people here are just too polite to tone it.



The first thing that comes to my mind if something like this happens, is that I annoyed or pissed this person off.

Well, ok.
The only way I'd worry if that person's my boss, someone important enough for some objective or simply someone I cared enough.


In turn, that's where it becomes inconsistent -- if I'm in a good mood, I can always ignore.
If not, I'd be just as annoyed or pissed.

Would I assume, from such reaction, that I'm being treated like an idiot?
Whether that's the case or not, I wouldn't care -- let them assume if it comes to it.
And use this assumption against them in a foreseeable future.

If pride or sheer curiosity lets me be, I'd either make an excuse or inquire why.
Yes, making a social springboard out of auditory issues if I feel like it.



Anyway.
The dynamics here are different.
And honestly, I don't know if it's just me.

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I don't get so upset when being yelled at by loved ones, but when people in authority mumble and almost whisper something then snap at you if you don't hear what they said, I think it is unprofessional.

^ It isn't much about being yelled at for not able to hear well.

But the tone of it said yelling.


If anyone yells at me, with an at least annoyed and judgmental tone -- it's how I usually describe it at my original post.

To expand;

At my best, I'd forgive myself for having to be hard of hearing.
And forgive this person or even ask if they're alright than just merely ignoring them.

But at my worst, I may end up frustrated enough with myself for not hearing well.
May end up picking a fight than just be quietly annoyed back and even judge them back.

Both contrasting reactions... Is cyclic like.

I do not merely end up hating people for yelling at me by not hearing them well.
That's how confusing my answers can get. In many social situations.

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It happens to me sometimes. Usually I only mind if the problem wasn't that I didn't hear but that I didn't understand what they meant, since then saying the same thing louder won't help at all.

I hate it when people do that. I'm autistic, not stupid. People do not need to raise their voice at me.