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OK, let me tell you about my late parents so that you can gain some perspective.

Both of my parents were very religious, crosses in every room, at church virtually all day on Sunday, no swearing and not a pack of cards in the house as gambling was considered a sin. If my pop was watching a TV programme and there was any nudity or swearing he would turn the TV off until the programme had finished.

Girlfriends were a nightmare and in the end I stopped bringing girls home because it kept on killing relationships. Somehow my pop would always bring the subject round to religion so he could ask my girlfriend what religion she was. One girlfriend was a Roman Catholic and when she told my pop this his reply was "you do realize that you're going to hell to suffer eternal damnation don't you"? That went down really well and for some reason she didn't want to see me after that.

My parents knew that I had psychological problems but they did nothing. At 21 I had a nervous breakdown and I was confined in a secure mental hospital for 90 days. After two days my parents eventually put in an appearance and after my pop saw where and how I was being held he turned on his heels and walked out of the place. They never visited me again and when the hospital staff enquired about this the reply was that "I was being chastised by the Lord and they should not intervene as my fate was in Gods hands".

My father died a year later and I didn't care. In fact I was more upset when Freddy Mercury died because at least he lived life to the full. As for my mom, she spent years just doing what my pop told her to do and when he died she had no idea of how to handle anything in life. She died a few years after my pop, alone, and I don't care about that either.

Apart from that my parents were OK

Feel better now ??

Ed Almos

no...i can see that my dad has some obvious aspie-like tendencies. he's anamazing inventor to boot.

my mom furiously refuses to accept any of my autism, much less that idea that she may have married an aspie as well. she does not believe in physcology, physciatry or anything, and becomes FURIOUS averytime i try to talk about my aspergers. she claims i'm "very impressionable" and that i just have an "addictive" personality, which to her means that when i get into a new obsession, i have to have EVERYTHING regarding it. duh-huh, mom. thruthfully, if she were to accept that fact that i am an aspie, it would mean she'd have to admit that she KNEW i had problems growing up, and in school and she did NOTHING to help get to the bottom of it. though her lack of interest in me never bothered me as a child, looking back, it's easy to see that she neglected me. i rarely have any memories of her at all.

i'm dealing with alot of anger with her right now. i've taught her how to talk to me without her flying off the handle in a rage because she interprets everything i say as "bad attitude". maybe one day we can talk about the past in a civilized manner.

Well, my mother is really okay I guess, but she is OVERPROTECTIVE and I am 18 years old and I need some space. How do you convince your parents that you can handle the world without them?

People have wondered that since the beginning! When you get to be 80, if she lives that long, she may STILL worry!

Steve

My mother is supportive of my son/daughter, but as far as she's concerned, I just like to make up excuses, lol. Ah well, to each their own I guess.