Ever get in trouble for a facial expression?

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My mother hated my frowns and eye rolls, as do some of the NTs I have to deal with at my job. Problem is I have little awareness of them and communicate in a way that is entirely direct and verbal.

Yes due to masking, where I was smiling at inappropiate moments.

All the time!!

I have definitely on occasionally been pulled up at work for having a facial expression that doesn’t match the scenario. Or laughing at something that isn’t funny. But usually I can see something they don’t such as irony.

I usually squish my face up n do weird face stuff .. usually when I'm feeling confused or having to do a task that requires processing.. which is most things. I don't think I get in trouble for the way I mush my face up or mumble without actually saying anything like when I'm heavily thinking about something.. such as typing haha. But I used to only feel the requirement to stim with my legs .. though seem to be more stressed out these days so perhaps that's why.

Often.

It's happened to me many times, since my default expression usually appears to show me frowning and being angry when that isn't the case whatsoever, rather tired of this happening honestly.

When I was about 8 the teacher kept clicking fingers in front of my face and telling me to lay attention, and I hated it when she did that so I tried hard to pay attention but because I was focusing too hard on paying attention I wasn't actually paying attention on what the teacher was saying, so she clicked her fingers near my face again and told me to listen. I felt like that was the last straw, so I put my head into my arms on my desk. A few minutes later she shouted at me to sit up, and I stared at her angrily. Then she said ''don't make that face at me''.

I hated that teacher.

I used to get in trouble in school and with my parents all the time for making the "wrong" facial expression. I'm not good at imitating expressions despite practicing them in the mirror for years, and I used to nervously smile as a kid whenever I got in trouble.

What you do is pick out some part of whatever they are telling you that is the least boring to you and ask them to tell you more about that.

It builds a genuine point of interest between you and the other person. It makes it easier for you to focus on the conversation, which will give you an appropriate facial expression, and then the other person is happy to reply to you and will be less critical of your face.

people often look at me like I'm f*****g crazy.

Some seem a bit put off, others seem happy to find something to jeer at.*

These have been mild jeers so far.

HOwever - With mental so called illness and autism in particular being demonized by middle men posing as journalists for an audience of morons,. Its only a matter of time before I find real trouble.

The most amusing one I can think of was from early summer 2020.

Riding the seawall and I thought this girl passing by gave a flirty smile.

whatever I tried to do back, idk what it was, but the guy riding behind her cracked right up and shook his head at me.

I've been told BY STRANGERS to 'cheer up' - which is most annoying and embarrassing. When I'm not interacting with anyone I have what you call the "resting b***h face", and complete strangers in the street have told me to cheer up, and it really pisses me off. Strangers have no business in telling me to smile, they don't know me or my life or what's going on in my head, and if they don't like it then they don't have to look at me (which I prefer anyway). I have ADHD so usually when I'm on my own my brain is racing with thoughts or I'm in a daydream, and it's hard to focus on smiling when I've gone into one of my daydreams. I wish people would leave me alone.