Illogical changes

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A lot of people on the spectrum, maybe most of the ones diagnosed, are resistant to change. Is it true that many vehemently disagree with changing anything for illogical reasons?

"Logic could be used to justify anything"

As an autist, I cope badly and wrongly and slowly to even the slightest change, even positive ones

But not all autistics are similar to me in that way

I do not like surprises.  Mrs. Fnord gives me advance warning and tells me to "act surprised" around my birthday.

I, for one, usually don't even mind illogical changes.
Why?? Mostly because I have to.
I'm in a place where can't afford the trait of being intolerant of lacking consistent routines and rules.

Routines here won't truly lasts, at all. Except changes itself as a routine.

So I expect any sort of changes and outright unpredictability on daily basis.
And so I chose to become one with it, and make out the most of it as responsibly and reliably possible.


Disruptive and sudden changes, mostly born out of irresponsibility, however, is another class of it's own.

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I don't understand what you mean. Could you clarify in simpler terms?

I'm resistant to change, especially for illogical reasons. I was told this was my "rigidity" coming out. My family says I act like a senior citizen in that I'm set in my ways...but for me when I like something, or like something a certain way, I come to expect it. I am the same way with things I buy - if I find something I like, I buy loads of the same thing. I sometimes will experiment to find something I like, but once I get myself set on stuff I don't change it. Even when I'm eating I'm like that - for example when I order a shawarma rap, it always has to have chicken, lettuce, onions, cucumbers, and black olives, with no sauce (I can't stand squishy substances because of sensory issues and there rarely are smooth sauces).... So bottom line is I don't like change at all, especially if it's illogical.

I didn't see the seat belt law as an illogical chance. I reckoned the logic was that the insurance companies, run by rich people, wanted to reduce the claims so they'd get more profit, so they got the government to change the law for them, and the government complied because they're mostly there to look after the rich. I saw it as rather unjust, but felt there wasn't much I could do about it. It wasn't much of a change at the time because I didn't ride about in cars very often.

But I'd get angry every time I pulled the belt too fast against the inertia lock (to put the thing on) and had to slow down to get it to unlock and play out the required length of belt. I'd also get angry when it was awkward finding the half of the buckle that was attached to the seat. Later on in life when my sensory issues got worse I'd get angry when the belt was too tight, but I fixed that with a small clip that limits the tightening to whatever I feel is best for me. And I learned to find the elusive half of the buckle and to avoid pulling the belt too fast.

So it's rather more complicated than me remaining forever furious at a change I see as illogical. Generally speaking I feel pretty upset at most changes when they're first inflicted on me. If they don't seem logical / justifiable then I usually feel somewhat worse, but it's more to do with how inconvenient to me the change seems rather than how logical I think it is. I seem to get uncommonly annoyed at unexpected obstacles to anything I'm trying to do. Often I can see why somebody needed to inflict a change on me, but that doesn't make it much easier to bear, in fact it can make it harder to express my anger because I can't credibly take the moral high ground. I view authorities with quite a lot of suspicion and disdain, so if they issue an edict that inconveniences me then I tend to resent it for all time, and wouldn't internalise it like an authoritarian might. But how quickly and well I calm down again depends on how quickly and well I manage to apply coping / resisting strategies, on how quickly I can get used to the new situation if it can't be resisted.

Compulsory seat belts may be a little more justifiable in the UK, because our health service is underfunded and oversubscribed, so anybody who takes an avoidable risk of needing treatment in hospital is potentially hurting the health service.

Excuse the long answer. It turned out to be a more complicated matter than I thought it would be, once I started to think about it.

Even when things change for the positive it stresses me out ALOT.