I was tricked into doing sex acts to the boys at school

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I have autism. I was bullied all the time at school and I was called weird and stupid and I never understood what I did wrong. I never had any friends and was never in a group like other kids were. It was impossible to have a friend.


And I was tricked into sex acts by the boys at school. I was 14 years old and in 9th grade and a girl came up to me and said this boy liked me. So I went to talk to him. Well it started out friendly and we told each other our names. I want to call him Max. He invited me over to his house after school and I told him my parents would not be okay with me hanging around boys and he laughed at me and said that I’m too old to be listening to my parents and told me to just say I had a project to do at school. Well, I did what he said and went to his place and all of his friends were there. He introduced me to call of duty and battlefield on his PlayStation.

We were playing the games for a while and then he started asking me these weird questions. He asked me if I’m a virgin, or if I ever played with myself, or gave head. I didn’t understand any of those questions. He said that friends do this all the time at school and it was an initiation to be his friend. He exposed his private and asked me to play with it. I didn’t want to do it and wanted to go home but he kept telling me this is an initiation to be in their group and I can’t hang out with them if I don’t do it. I didn’t want to be alone anymore and Max was really nice to me so I eventually agreed to do it.

One thing led To the next. I snuck out to his house sometimes to hang out with and sometimes his brother bakes brownies and cookies for us, and I did all those nasty things for him. He even had me do it in school to the other boys. I did whatever he told me to do. I was okay with being around him because he was the only person that was nice to me and didn’t call me weird. There was even a time where he asked me to call him boss so, I call him boss sometimes at school. I even had a crush on him.

A teacher found me doing all these dirty things to the other kids in an empty portable, and I got suspended for 10 days. My mom found out about it and started yelling at me about how those kids weren’t my friends. It was then she told me I had autism. She told me that the world will see me and treat me differently because I am autistic and if I don’t keep it under control, I will be in very big trouble. She grounded me and took my phone and I wasn’t able to talk to those boys for a while. I remembered Max’s number and called him on the house phone and he agreed to meet. So I snuck out when my parents were sleeping to hang out with him every night until my mom saw me try to sneak out and punished me for it. This was about a week before they installed cameras in and out of the house. And my mom telling me that I was going to be homeschooled and won’t be going to school anymore. I’m not even allowed to leave the house anymore or open the door for anyone. I can’t even sneak out to see max anymore because my parents will find out through the cameras.

It was when I actually hated my parents for keeping me away from the only person that was nice to me. Well, I got my phone back and got a new phone number with everything erased. Mom told me not to call anyone but but my parents and my brother.

My brother sent me a text that his friend had with max. It went something like this:

“that stupid ret*d girl will do whatever I ask”

“I make so much money from her giving bjs and right when I raised the price we got suspended. And I was thinking of doing her too. She’ll do anything I tell her to. She’d be down with that. She’s cute af tho”

I didn’t know he was using me to make money. I thought he and I were friends. My brother told me I was being whored out and the school started calling me a slut and a whore and the baked stuff Max’s brother made probably had pot in it. All this time they tricked me.

I want to be mad at max but I couldn’t. I couldn’t be mad at the person who didn’t pick on me. I’m so confused. Still confused. I want to see him again. A part of me didn’t care as long as someone was nice to me.

Is this what my mom meant by my autism will get me in a lot of trouble? Me having no friends. Me being used. Me getting yelled at and pulled out of school by my parents

If so, I wish my autism would just go away. I wish I wasn’t weird. If I wasn’t weird or rtd maybe this wouldn’t happened to
Me. I hate it so much. And that Max never liked me in the first place and just wanted me to play with their privates. It hurt. The whole thing keeps running in my head but I don’t know what to do. I don’t know how I should feel.

I’m 16 and still going to be homeschooled. My parents will not let me back to school for my safety. I can’t even go out without someone with me.

I wish I wasn’t autistic.

What those boys did to you was a crime. It wasn't just hurtful or mean, it was something that they can, and should, pay criminal penalties for.

You being "weird" isn't the problem. The problem was that those boys did something to take advantage of you and the condition you have.

Your mother shouldn't have grounded you, but she is right to protect you from them. It is unfortunate that the way she is doing this is to cut you off from any kind of normalcy when you are the one who was hurt by all of this.

I know you think this boy, Max, was kind to you, but he wasn't. He was being evil in ways that I know you don't see.

I don't know if you have a therapist or somebody who works with you to support your autism, but I hope you do. What happened to you is a very hard situation for anyone to have to go through, and I know for you it might be more confusing, difficult, and hard.

I don't want to say that you shouldn't be ashamed of being Autistic. Your feelings of frustration over being Autistic are justified, and if you were not autistic or had any other complications, you are right that maybe this would not have happened to you.

But I want to say again, this is not your fault. You are not the one who did these horrible things. They did.

Please remember that.

If you are 15 years old, or any age, and you were coerced into exploitative sex acts or given drugs without your consent, you need to call the police and press charges against the students as well as the school administration for not protecting you. The fact that you are autistic or developmentally delayed makes the abuse of trust even more disconcerting.

Please talk to your doctor for post-traumatic psychological care.

I'm sure your phone company can trace or share the erased messages, even if you have a new number. I'd advise trying to get copies of those, for the investigation.

I hope you have a family member or school guidance counsellor who can be your ally through this.

Pimps usually hang around bus stations to "welcome" young runaway girls to a city. By pretending to be a friend or show romantic interest, they deceive a girl into being willing to do what they want (which is to sell their services). Sometimes addictive drugs are also used to further insure the girl's willingness.

Parents are supposed to protect their daughters. However, many parents are themselves deceived into thinking that schools are safe. John Taylor Gatto has written extensively about public schools. He said he quit teaching because he could no longer harm children. He also said that school as an institution was similar to prison in that it was run by the inmates.

It was not too long ago when predators like this were either killed in prison or the back room of a police station. Today they are seldom even scolded. They are even incentivized to operate with impunity, as a result, the public sphere is becoming as safe as Afghanistan.

I was once made to do sex acts on a fellow student who was 3 years older than me. I was 13 years old.

He said he wanted to "experiment" with me. I partially consented, then thought twice about it, and ran from his apartment.

I'm sorry this happened to you.

Isabella gives good advice. You are a person. Autism doesn't lessen your "personhood." You should not have things done to you without your consent, or have somebody give you drugs without your consent.

Every person in the world has the right to their dignity. No matter what.

I appreciate that.

Sylveon: Sorry you got suspended for 10 days. That wasn't fair. I'm glad your parents were at least somewhat understanding.

I'm sorry they won't let you out, and let you have your freedom. I wish you could tell your parents that you learned a lesson. Even "normal" kids make mistakes like you did. I wish they would let you outside----but make sure you have a phone with you at all times, so you can keep in contact with them.

If I ever told my mother what happened to me, she would have had an absolute fit! She would have withdrew to her room, took to her bed, and started crying. She was getting all these phone calls from my guidance counselor threatening to expel me.

At least, this was back in 1974----so I'm lucky.

Things will get better for you. I know it's hard being a teenager.

I also wanted to tell you that this sort of thing happens to many kids---whether they're autistic or not. It's very common now----it might have even been even more common when I was a teenager in the 1970s.

I would hope your parents would not see you as having done something terribly "wrong." You did a teenage thing. You made a mistake----but it's not a tragic mistake. It could have been worse....but it wasn't "worse."

But you have to learn from it.

I can almost say this is a "part of growing up." I did "teenage" things, too. I made
stupid mistakes. But I'm 60 now, and still alive and well.

I really wish I had the power to talk to your parents. I don't like it that they're restricting you so much.

But I hope you don't even think of doing that again.

I never said it was her "fault."

I don't believe it's her "fault."

I just believe she got sucked into something that I could have gotten sucked into when I was her age because of my naivete. And because she wanted to "please" someone.

Predators can pick out vulnerable people . Autistic people tend to not be confident and exhude a certain akwardnes.

It makes autistic people the perfect target.

I was 19 and assumed I was hanging out with people that liked me. They were gay. I was straight. Beggars can't be chooser I suppose ... Was drugged.

And well a straight man in 2000 couldn't really go to the police with a story like that. Didn't tell my parents until my late 30s. Didn't tell anyone until I had a hemorrhoid that mirrored the same physical pain and my girlfriend at the time didn't understand the crying and what would seem like I was being a p****. And so I told her. She told my sister...

I had planned to kill them. I planning to get a gun. I just couldn't sustain the anger.

And I was not a naive kid. But i wanted to think people liked me.

Autism is makes it hard. Your ability to ferret out bad actors is not as finely tuned. I kept having issues albeit more financial in nature due to me assuming people are like me because why would I think I was special.

I wish I could say it gets easier. It doesn't . It gets alot harder and the only thing that autistic people tend to have is a unreasonable stubbornness that well in my case is probably the only reason I haven't checked out.

I can't even think of certain things I could have done differently. Autism is like a gene whose expression is compounded over decades of reinforced behaviour and operant conditioning.

Therapy if you can. Do anything you can that will boost your confidence in a tangible way you can measure that is not reliant on people.

I just became more obsessed with music. But I think you can do social things like martial arts that is not reliant on being part of the group.

Sorry this was a word jumble.

Your parents punished you for being abused.
I suspect they just panicked but it doesn't make it any less wrong.
You need a therapist to talk the whole situation over.
Someone who wouldn't judge you or feel responsible for you - just help you decipher and process everything that has happened.
Probably your parents would benefit from this kind of help, too. It would have been better if they hadn't made a secret of your diagnosis and had worked on teaching you assertiveness.

I'm very sorry for you. I was in a bit similar situation when I was teenage... I wish my parents didn't avoid the topic and had prepared me better for the confusing world of teenage sex. But they pretended the topic didn't exist and then very harshly punished me when I didn't know how to navigate it.

Tell your parents you need a therapist to make sense of it all and to learn to navigate such situations better. Because the core of the thing is that you have been horribly abused. Now you need an ally to rebuild yourself wiser and stronger.

And it's not even uncommon , as phenomen, in dutch that's called "loverboy"
a pretend boyfriend that abuses (pimps) a lonely and insecure girl for money
only a link to french, here https://www.huffingtonpost.fr/entry/pro ... 46ce81e0b5
or https://nl.wikipedia.org/wiki/Loverboy_(persoon) (also; teenpimps)