12 Nov 2021, 3:39 pm
Yes, that old psychological affront, where someone tells you "you're not OK (but I am)".
Basically, lumping us in with other people who've got mental illness per se (like bipolar, schizophrenic, psychosis, disassociative personality disorder, or even PTSD).
I got it a couple of times in the past, usually after I snapped and got really angry and broke something - like on a couple of occasions with housemates, but never in the workplace. I got it at school a few times, including in uni. But I can't recall getting the comment purely on the basis of miscommunications or misinterpretation of mind-state, or making social faux-pas. When the toxic person told me this comment, I just deflected with "with you??! yeah, anyone would be in need of help, you'd drive them insane."
Kind of a narcissistic reply, but sometimes, you gotta 
If you wanted to really rub it in their faces, again along the same narcissistic lines, say "Yeah, been there, done that -but I actually ended up being the one who educated the so-called professional." (don't laugh too hard, this has actually been true for me more than once 
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So, yeah. My guess from my own experience is the anecdotes of other Aspies would be along the same lines: you don't get this sort of offensive comment based on the "primary" manifestations of ASD/HFA, but rather due to the comorbids and reactions, e.g. depression and anxiety causing us to act out, be short-tempered, give a piece of our mind to those who intentionally ignore or invalidate us, etc.
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Basically, lumping us in with other people who've got mental illness per se (like bipolar, schizophrenic, psychosis, disassociative personality disorder, or even PTSD).
I got it a couple of times in the past, usually after I snapped and got really angry and broke something - like on a couple of occasions with housemates, but never in the workplace. I got it at school a few times, including in uni. But I can't recall getting the comment purely on the basis of miscommunications or misinterpretation of mind-state, or making social faux-pas. When the toxic person told me this comment, I just deflected with "with you??! yeah, anyone would be in need of help, you'd drive them insane."
Kind of a narcissistic reply, but sometimes, you gotta
If you wanted to really rub it in their faces, again along the same narcissistic lines, say "Yeah, been there, done that -but I actually ended up being the one who educated the so-called professional." (don't laugh too hard, this has actually been true for me more than once
)So, yeah. My guess from my own experience is the anecdotes of other Aspies would be along the same lines: you don't get this sort of offensive comment based on the "primary" manifestations of ASD/HFA, but rather due to the comorbids and reactions, e.g. depression and anxiety causing us to act out, be short-tempered, give a piece of our mind to those who intentionally ignore or invalidate us, etc.
Something along those lines, I was told on an autism forum to "be a better person" by an NT parent who later had their children taken from her due to abuse. If only she had listened to what I had to say maybe she wouldn't have beaten her children, when people know you are autistic that pretty much invalidates anything you say, in my country anyway.
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Basically, lumping us in with other people who've got mental illness per se (like bipolar, schizophrenic, psychosis, disassociative personality disorder, or even PTSD).
I got it a couple of times in the past, usually after I snapped and got really angry and broke something - like on a couple of occasions with housemates, but never in the workplace. I got it at school a few times, including in uni. But I can't recall getting the comment purely on the basis of miscommunications or misinterpretation of mind-state, or making social faux-pas. When the toxic person told me this comment, I just deflected with "with you??! yeah, anyone would be in need of help, you'd drive them insane."
Kind of a narcissistic reply, but sometimes, you gotta
If you wanted to really rub it in their faces, again along the same narcissistic lines, say "Yeah, been there, done that -but I actually ended up being the one who educated the so-called professional." (don't laugh too hard, this has actually been true for me more than once
)So, yeah. My guess from my own experience is the anecdotes of other Aspies would be along the same lines: you don't get this sort of offensive comment based on the "primary" manifestations of ASD/HFA, but rather due to the comorbids and reactions, e.g. depression and anxiety causing us to act out, be short-tempered, give a piece of our mind to those who intentionally ignore or invalidate us, etc.
Something along those lines, I was told on an autism forum to "be a better person" by an NT parent who later had their children taken from her due to abuse. If only she had listened to what I had to say maybe she wouldn't have beaten her children, when people know you are autistic that pretty much invalidates anything you say, in my country anyway.
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