Autistic infantilization

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https://blog.theautismsite.greatergood.com/infantilization-autism/

This is an interesting little read about autistics being infantilized. I see it far, far to often from parents and wider society in general.

Self fulfilling prophecy it often is indeed. The numbers of aspies hanging from their mothers apron strings while still packing at least high school education is nauseating. Why 25 year olds haven't been taught to use a bus and why they themselves seemingly haven't decided to try it on their own is a mystery.

I'm not going to address the autists not being able to use the bus because that is irrelevant as we do not know the capabilities of the individual.

Have I been treated like a child and spoken to like I'm a baby?
Not by friends, colleagues, and family members.
By strangers who don't know me? God yes. I've even had "Does he take sugar?" moments.
Does it absolutely boil my piss? You can have no idea. The unfortunate thing is that I can get so angry that my attempts to keep my rage under control can render me situationally non-vocal. It is so frustrating.

I read the title as Autistic Infanticidization.

I'm not convinced that the majority of ASDers are failing to realise their full potential (whatever that may mean) as a result of underestimating their strengths. Of course it's always worth considering, when contemplating a venture, that you may be stronger than you imagine. In the same way it's worth considering that you may be getting overconfident. I suppose the trick is to try to take reasonable risks.

There's an old thread somewhere about the same issue by the same OP I think. It became polemical, went on for many pages, and nothing was ever resolved. Most contributors didn't agree with the notion, if I remember right.

Article's just another typical writing of "the obvious and what it can be done" for me.

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Yeah different to what I originally thought the post title meant. I am pretty useless planning a decent journey with multiple changes etc unless it’s clearly planned and outlined so I’ll often take the same routes or journey the exact same way as I easily get confused.

I see the article has a different angle on it, being more about the way some people talk down to Aspies. So yes, it's likely to be more palatable.

I haven't experienced a lot of it myself. There was a bit of it from my family when I was young (though I wasn't diagnosed then), occasionally it'd be "oh, he'll never manage that," but by and large they knew I wasn't weak or stupid. And my parents were needlessly protective and tended to carry me and my sister around a little too much. But not enough to tie either of us to their apron strings for life, I loved independence and grabbed it whenever I got the chance.

Aspies can have developmental delays. Often this is just an understandable reaction to discomfort.

Most people will avoid things that make them uncomfortable. If Aspies are more sensitive, they will likely avoid more things. If taking the bus is uncomfortable, learning how to use the bus may be put off as long as possible.

Which comes first: The infantile behavior or being infantilized?