"are you ok?"

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Sometimes this question makes me very irritable. I have bad . . stims, I think they are called? I hate the slow sound of the humming appliances sometimes, or I get really nerveous and I do odd things like moan, humm monotonously or do random exclamations. When I get loud my gf asksk me if i am ok or what did I say, to wich i reply im ok or "nothing" I know she asks because sometimes I do freak out, if you understand what I mean, and she wants to know if that is so, but sometimes it does get irritating, though I understand the logical, sound reasoning behind her asking.

i get that 2 at work, i tell everyone im fine and want to be left alone sometimes, after a whlle they get the message, somethin well all have to deal with im afriad

She hopes that you are happy, and worries when you are not. If this seems patronising or fussy then think about how exactly you would like her to react. What would you like her to say or do, in the circumstances? How would you treat someone who was upset or annoyed in a similar way?

I think it's probably annoying because you are already on edge and trying not to react. By commenting on it she is drawing attention to you and putting your self-control under more pressure. But remember she doesn't mean it this way.

She's obviously pretty good at recognising when you are stressed. If, instead of asking questions, she hugged you and said "It's ok" and then left you alone, would that help? That's the way I like to be treated when I'm stressed.

I often get people asking if I'm OK, I think mainly because my facial expressions and body language don't always express how I am really feeling on the inside. At work, people often say I look bored, or fed up, when I am actually feeling hyper and really happy. Or I am lost in my thoughts, daydreaming, and I'll have my mum or whoever asking if I'm OK. Which annoys me then, because I have been distracted from my thoughts.

My boyfriend feels the need to ask me if I'm ok every five minutes and it really gets on my nerves. Just because I am not perpetually talking does not mean there is something wrong with me!

I get it when I'm zoning out. People assume that there is something wrong, or if I'm rocking, they ask a lot as well. My normal response is that it is nothing... because it isn't anything usually, lol-nothing anything can be done about it of course, or I'm thinking about everything at once, yet nothing really imparticular when I'm zoning out. Usually after a few times of me saying "nothing", someone will ask if I'm mad at them. My normal response is "well, I'm not currently, but if you keep asking me it just might push me to that point."

tempy, if the offender of the humming is the microwave, they do make microwaves with inverter technology that dont have the humm when cooking, i have one by ge and all i hear when cooking is the fan to vent the extra heat created by cooking.

i get asked this as well if im ok esepcially while in long car rides and im just sitting there enjoying what passes me or daydreaming (yea im always a passenger) and theres nothing really wrong.

If people say "Are you okay", then they just want you to reply with something like "Yes, I am good thanks". If people ask "How are you?" then, they really want to know how you are, and are giving you the option to say "actually, I am not okay".

People always ask if I am okay. I just say that I am in fact okay. It is what people want to hear.

I think you've got it backwards.

Actually I'm one of the worst people to ask that question.

I understand she asks out of concern, I just get irritated sometimes and I don't know how to react to it so that I do not offend. Story of my life realy.

It's understandible. It is irritating when your space is pervaded by some distraction, and a double slap when someone misinterperts your attempts to block it out and preserve your mental state.

I really identified with these two posts.

And a loud "amen!" to Maeotian.

Yo Grim! I think it depends on the context. "How are you?" is often another way of saying hello, particluarly from people you've only just met or don't know you very well. But people who know you more closely are likely to be more genuine in their request, and seeking more detail. "Are you ok?" is a phrase which means little to women but is THE window to emotional expression amongst men. Why? Because it hints at concern and the possibility that things may not be ok, without actually saying as much. It leaves the window open for a conversation which can be as deep or superficial as the subject decides.

If, as a girl, a man ever says to you, "Are you ok?" or "Are you all right?", this is not a superficial question. It means he cares, in some way, and is trying to ask a question about your welfare without implying any weakness or fault on your part. if you want to discuss anything, there is your chance.

My boyfriend said "How are you" was basically a way of saying "hello" as well, and I'm sure he would agree about the "are you okay", but it doesn't mean it won't bother me, lol, as I feel there should be an answer or he's expecting an answer. It feels odd if he is showing concern about my behavior if it is simply because I am zoning out.

My only question, since that does make sense for the most part even if I cannot fully understand it because I usually don't ask those things, is why is it that when you say "nothing" because there literally is nothing at all wrong, why do people doubt it so much? Is it simply because so many say it to avoid talking about things? Or is it that the response sounds too generic when somebody inquires because they expect that something is wrong?

At the course I am attending, my tutor always asks me if I am ok. I just say "Yes, I am fine".
She tells me that I am really quiet and that she thinks i'm upset about something. I'm not upset, just doing my work.

What makes it worse, is when someone asks you if you are ok, and you say "yes, I am fine" and then they say "Are you sure you're ok?".

They already have an answer, they don't need to hear it a second time.