Unpredictable

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I thought I'd ask if you were considered unpredictable. I have been told many times that I am unpredictable at school people use to say that I was unpredictable. A situation would come up and I would get angry about it and then the next day a similar situation would come up and I would just laugh and get excited about it and joke about it constantly.

Also my ex use to tell me I was unpredictable when it came to my behaviour and she was unpredictable as well. I have to admit about she is not diagnosed but she did have a few aspie traits it wouldn't surprise me if she was aspie. We did clash alot towards the end and the way we would be in a crowded room and she would want to be on her own even I had to stay away from her in those situations. At least she use to look after me when I had a meltdown. I do miss hew alot.

Definitely. When I get really enraged my affect is always completely blank before I react which makes it impossible for the people around me to read me or see it coming. And anything that ever gets to me that badly would likely not bother me at all on another day or be only a minor irritation. For me I think a lot of it has to do with my ability to tolerate stress at that moment and how stressful my day has been, but some of it's also I think much more chemical. I made homemade seitan once (wheat gluten) and had a very tough time later that day. It's what convinced me to get the ball rolling with restricting my diet.

I was personally told at work by someone that I got angry alot and that nobody can predict how I will react in situations, we all have similar problems it sounds.

At school, I would sometimes look happy, others angry, the way I dealt with ppl changed alot and alot of it is ability to tolerate stress at that particular time or even sensory (often i would explode when someome screwed with me when we were in a crouded room).

I've been told that I can be really shy sometimes and other times I can be really extraverted. I can also really suprise people at times.

I have been called unpredictable and unstable by my mother... said with a LOT of angry, stressed disdain. It's fun!

no, im a pretty predictable kindof guy

I've had both said about me: that I'm too predictable and that I'm too unpredictable.

So I've concluded that such judgments often have more to do with the speaker than the person being evaluated.

when people want to use or exploit me they find me very predictable. if they want to portray me as scary or unstable, they find me very unpredictable and tell others so.

A frightening but very perceptive observation.

YES, absolutely, an As trait for sure, both my mum and sis are very unpredictable, i used to tell them a lot before i even knew about AS, cos it´s very annoying and frustrating for me, cos i never know when somth is going to hurt them or not, no matter how good my intention was..depending on the situation, or depending on emotional overload i guess..

This ive only found out recently, why it is that they do react that way sometimes (over reacting sometimes), so i take it differently now, not personally as I used to do before knowing of AS, which used to hurt me a lot.

I am so glad i found out about AS so I can treat them the right way and nothing my mum does to me hurt me anymore, i realized its not her fault, I feel so relieved now. And my mum is happier at the same time cos she sees i treat her differently, in a better way for her..Im really happy in that way.

Still, it is hard to deal with sometimes...

Sorry for my speech, i need it to let it out

That's alright Mariag

Thx,