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This has been concerning me for a while is it a Neurological or Sensory issue that I can't ''take'' on a lot at one time? I am focused not really lazy but often can't move at the speed of NT's, or do I want to ''take on the world'' the way NT's I went to school with did, such as having 3 or more kids, high paying job, working 60 or 80+ hours on top of that, I start my new job soon and 25 or 29 is plenty, plus I take care of my father and dog, could it just also be I am getting older at 37? every time I go to the doctor and get bloodwork everything is normal, or possibly having Covid19 had more of a impact on me as well neurologically? even though I had it two years ago

Try an Internet search for: autism multitasking

So...perhaps it's a neurological issue: "Autism"?

I think b/c I am inadvertently taking on so much that I can't intentionally take on so much. I sense more than my NT peers, I care more than my NT peers, my standards are higher than my NT peers. I am the Specialist, my NT peers are the Generalists. My NT peers don't spend an inordinate amount of time managing (or structuring life for) a very active nervous system. I'm work managing a conversation in a small group is exhausting. I would say I am much busier in that time than my NT peers. So, I do more work.

I can't handle doing a lot of things at once, like having a job, going to school, taking care of kids/pets, etc. My job, my pets, and the basic tasks I have to do everyday take up most of my energy. I would like to do further schooling, but I honestly can't see myself handling that w/ a job or anything else like that.

I used to become physically ill (throwing up) trying to mask and accomplish all the things that were expected of me - but most especially social demands. It was a long, slow, lifetime process of cutting back until I found joy in life and not just stress. Probably it could be seen as lazy or unmotivated but I can also move into high gear for some event that matters to me. But, I can't maintain that, or more importantly, I won't anymore.
I keep my life as simple as I can on a daily basis with only the occassional events of my choosing or for my children. Even as grown adults they still can use help from time to time, so I try to save and spend my energy reserves on them or something I truly enjoy doing.
Try to ignore the nagging guilt or peer pressure that surrounds all of us and focus on what is improtant to you.

I relate to this in some ways. I wasn't making myself ill from social bits though (I've never much been one for socializing), just trying to push myself and do all the 'normal life things' people are supposed to do.. juggling work, school, family, house tasks, bills, life in general... It led me to several burnouts before having my major burnout that landed me on disability some years back. I also took to removing things from my life one by one until I found a life I can manage that consists of me not doing much at all with my energy saved for things I do want to engage in. I'm sure there are people who would call me lazy or selfish for it, but ultimately I have to live my life and wake up every day in my skin and reality, not theirs. And I won't go back to a life that is nothing but nonstop struggling to make it through each day. I'm not built for that crap. Too much is simply too much for me. Life is better this way for me.

You wrote: This has been concerning me for a while is it a Neurological or Sensory issue that I can't ''take'' on a lot at one time?

I had a similar problem when I was young. But I found solutions that helped me. I create "To Do" list. Whenever I need to do something, I write it down. When it is completed, I throw it into the trash and move on. If I need something from town or from the store, I write it down. If I need to do something, I write it down. As long as I maintain the list, it is not forgotten. As I grew up, I learned extremely complex methods of organizing lists that included "THE PITFALLS". Those things that could prevent you from succeeding. What needs to be done first. So the solution is writing it down and organization.