Is it common for aspie to often not fit in?

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I know because of my issues I don't know where I really belong more in special needs or mental health. I didn't really graduate from high school properly, I don't have a regular paid job, I'm not really a social butterfly all the time, I have low self esteem, I don't fit in very well, and I don't understand complex things. Do people on the spectrum often not fit in? I'm not a social butterfly but I have a few friends I see in person.

It's a very common experience among autistic people. You'd fit in around here

I find it hard to fit in even with other autistic people

It's one of our defining characteristics.

Any form of deviance or divergence would do that.

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Duh!
(Didn't mean that nastily, it's cool to ask, just thought I'd give an obvious answer lol).

Even if we “appear” to fit in with NTs through masking, we still “feel” the truth that we do not fit in with them.

"social struggles" is one of the things we must have to be diagnosed as autistic. Yes, most all of us feel like outsiders, feel separate and experience frequent rejection . very common indeed!

I wouldn't say I don't fit in with NTs. I'm actually quite likeable and I'm easy to get on with and to talk to. I'm very trustworthy as well, when people confide in me with gossip I don't go off and tell others whom it may upset. People like that about me. But sadly I'm not that popular and I don't often get invited out to do social activities with others, which is a huge RSD trigger for me and can knock me into depression.

I think I understand the social rules more than a lot of autistic people do. I see things the illogical way, rather than logical. Sometimes even here when people have empathy (which you all do) I see it is often expressed in a more logical way. That doesn't mean you lack empathy though, in fact it seems more empathetic. I can't always relate to that.
And I understand other things NTs do too, like lying and not being bothered if someone ain't literal. Like if someone says "I'll just be a couple of minutes", I wouldn't think "oh, a couple means two, that's exactly 120 seconds, any more or any less then it's a lie". I just see "a couple of minutes" as "I won't be long".