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How do you begin to cope after your parents have thrown your personal belongings away?

I used to live in a shared flat but had to move out because my room developed mould as the landlord refused to fix the leaking ceiling and i moved back with my parents.

I had my belongings stored in two storage containers (sealed with parcel tape) and one case (with lock) stored in the cellar.

Around a year ago i went to get my stuff from my boxes and the sealed boxes had been opened and the lock on my case had been cut open.

This was everything i owned, Clothes, Wallets, Shoes, Books, DVD's. Too much to list here, but you get the idea. I also had a private book where i had been writing notes for a medical condition i have and how medication is affecting it, i didn't want them finding out about it but this too has gone• My parents have made me aware that they know.

What should i do, this has permanently damaged our relationship and it will cost me at least £1500-£2000 to replace most of what they threw away, some of my books are out of print so irreplaceable. Everyday i feel so worthless and i feel so sad.

I don't have very good advice, I'm afraid. I know what I'm like with my personal possessions, so I would mourn the loss of them and eventually it wouldn't hurt as bad but I'd never forget. A similar thing happened to my brother when he stored things in my folks garage, he was pissed but he has moved on from it. Maybe it's not a bad thing that your parents know about the medical condition you were hiding, perhaps they can be supportive? Then again I don't know the reasons they did this and with the limited information you've provided , they could just be as*holes.

Obviously trust them less in the future.