Forgetting to say "hello"

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I normally forget to say "good morning" "hello" or "hi", is this unusual? When i do my teachers sometimes get mad and make me repeat the sentence i started but starting it with "hello" or another appropriate word. My grandmother always gets mad at me for forgetting it?

I have a very hard time greeting people, even saying good morning to my own family. It is difficult to remember. Once I remember, it's OK with people I know well, but with others it seems I just swallow my words and can't get them out.

Most people I know do not bother me about it and say hello or good morning first. Then that triggers me and I respond appropriately.

I don't usually greet people either, but will respond if someone greets me.

For my son (almost 14), I suspect 2 things are going on. First, he usually (like me) has to think about what he is going to say before he says it. Depending upon how long he has had to hold it in memory, he may or may not remember to add the appropriate pleasantries.

Second,he has always had a hard time just walking by people and greeting them, say--for example-- in the school yard. I think it is because he has face blindness, so he doesn't always know he is walking by people he knows. Whenever we go to the mall together, he is afraid he will run into a friend and not know who they are. When he was younger, he was convinced that he must be popular because a bunch of strangers knew his name. He has never been popular...they were just the kids from his school and he couldn't recognize them.

If the first issue applies to you, you could rehearse what you need to say with the appropriate pleasantry.

It actually a really important thing to learn to remember. It actually stems from the ancient law of greeting, which is part of the laws of courtesy and hospitality. To greet and start with the trivials, ie weather and so forth used to be a way in which you could assess the type of person you were meeting, ie friend or enemy etc. Little things like these laws are still very important these days.

I used to be very bad at this too, but I taught myself how to do it (and not analyse it too much). It's easier if you get in first. Say "G'day - how's it going?" - answer "Not too bad thanks and yourself" - answer "yeah, not too bad" or simply say back "Yeah, how's it going" They're short sentences with little direct meaning.

I know a 22-year-old diagnosed ASDer who is still getting used to saying "hello," and didn't bother with it at all a year or so ago.

Personally, I've said "hello" for as far back as I can remember, with no problem. I took it to be an enjoyable little game or ritual. I don't know why I've always been so strangely NT in that respect.

I've always felt uncomfortable when people haven't said "hello" back to me. Last time I didn't say it back to somebody was when I hated the person concerned, and I acted like that as a gesture of contempt and to show him that I wasn't going to dance to his tunes. He's an extremely brash, invasive person who seems to think everybody wants to be his buddy. It's the only time I can remember not saying "hello."

I am good with saying hello. When it gets awkward is after that most people say how are you. I forget or know I should say it but for some reason can't get the words out. I tend to either leave an awkward gap while I am thinking about who should be saying how are you first or launch into whatever I meant to say to them

I am better with some people but if I don't like someone I don't ask because I am not really interested anyway

I find it hard to greet people first and usually don't. I am ok if someone talks first.

I don't forget to say hello, but sometimes I avoid saying hello if someone (whom I know) looks distracted, because it feels awkward.

At work, or regarding a special interest, I forget. I'm always launching into something and then --- "BTW: Hello. " I started a new job last year and initially my introductions were fairly decent because I focused on them. Now I am busier but I still have people I am meeting, but now my introduction are really bad.

Yesterday a friend of my ASD tween called her over for a hug as were leaving. My daughter caught up with me and was flustered --- "ugh, I said 'thank you', instead of 'goodbye'". Yep. BTDT.

I no longer forget -- if and if I'm in public and also if I'm also able to regulate myself.
Otherwise, with enough stress I'd forget out of sheer overwhelm, or wont out of sheer dissonance.

Better if I'm bored or in a better mood to bother anyone that awkwardness be damned.

Which I learned about...
Say, 6 years ago, at age 21.
Sometimes multiple times on the same person if I'm forgetful enough.


I have a weird relationship with greeting.
Not love-hate. Positive to neutral but otherwise atypical.

What I forget -- or couldn't figure at least half the time -- is WHEN to let anyone know of my own presence

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I don't say hello or hi to anyone unless they say it first.
I actively avoid people so it's not usually an issue.

I'm really bad at greetings in general.

Are you good at goodbyes?
They're even worse.
I usually try to just vanish.

I don't use 'hello' ever, my goto greeting is 'alright' or this

I used to hang around until everyone else left.
Even though I was dog tired.
It was just easier.