Changing routine and suspicion

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Am I the only one that has noticed I seem to be under more scrutiny than NT's for innocuous behaviour? Come back home after walking past a family having a BBQ.....arson. Has a telescope in bedroom window looking out over some of the best views in the country.......peeping tom.

Not only that, but changes of routine seem to trigger overreaction and an assumption of sinister motives. Going to a new area after hanging out in one particular town seems to evoke an interrogation on my return and the occasional locker room talk or joke seems to always be unwanted compared to other NT's in the same group who gets away with ten times as much to the amusement of people listening.

Any ideas on how to deal with being treated differently to NT's in this way.

Sometimes people make exaggerated statements as a sort of humorous exchange rather than an accusation. Many of the WWII generation were like that. They would make a "friendly insult" and if it was not well received would ask, "What's the matter, can't you take it?"

I found that often using humor to "trump" the comment can sometimes work. For example,

If "accused" of arson say, "You don't appreciate how hard it is for an arsonist with all the brick and concrete around."

If "accused" of being a peeping Tom you can say, "I had to give up peeping as I couldn't afford to live where there are attractive people."

If "accused" of being unfriendly, you could say, "My parole officer said that if I kill even just one more person, I could go back to jail."

Most were from my mother and they were legitimate accusations when I was a lot younger.

Even now she shows suspicion from time to time. I'm very guarded with what I tell her and have learned to button my feelings up over the years when around family.

Gossip and accusations are the norm it seems, regardless of how absurd.

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"Loose lips sink ships"

"Actions speak louder than words"

The speaker has just one definition. All other definitions are misunderstandings

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My parents tended to misunderstand my statements a disproportionate amount of the time. It could have been because of autism or language barrier or something else. So I only talked when necessary and et cetera. Then they dropped dead.

Safeway and food Maxx had the nerve to tell me that, they caught me "stealing" on previous occasions and I was not allowed to come back. However that was "mistaken identity". But that doesn't matter because "we reserve the right to refuse service to anyone" is the law. I didn't "steal" from Safeway or food Maxx. They did not issue my worthless corpse a Civil Demand letter, call security or cops on my decomposing skeleton, escort me to the back room, fingerprinted, taken to the station or anything like that.

Sometimes employees and security guards have the nerve to follow me around and cross examine me when I am in a store. ("What are you doing?", When I was waiting for the litterbox). They did not do anything bad or illegal or wrong, but I didn't either)

Sometimes I wonder if my gait looks suspicious . Otherwise it could be that they think I look like I don't have enough cash to be a customer.

Everyone has subconscious biases

Lately I have been more careful, not to do anything suspicious. Such as not opening a backpack in the paid area. Also, saying "hi" to security guards, eye contact, posture, whatever

Appearances are sometimes deceiving, but precious lil "people" often make judgments and decisions based on appearances

Frequently someone misunderstands my actions and statements. Usually they don't accuse me of anything illegal such as "arson" or "peeping tom".