Having your mom scratch your back

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This is just a random question. Do you think it's weird for a mildly autistic adult to have their back scratched by their mother? My mom does it for me a lot which I enjoy, but then I read about NT people online who are saying it's weird when asked about it by others. They keep saying "get your daughter a back scratcher" or "I suppose if it's itchy and she keeps her shirt on, it's okay to do it." Most posts make back scratching seem purely sexual.

I could be wrong, but I feel really close to my mom and we live together, so I don't think it's weird at all. It usually helps me lower my stress and relax at night. She usually does it a couple times a week. Last night I was sitting at the table feeling very tired and stressed, when suddenly, I got an itchy spot on my back. I tried rubbing my back on the chair and that only made my back itch more. So, instead of fighting it, I got up, changed into my nightgown, and laid down next to my mom in her bed to watch TV and get my back scratched.

As soon as I laid down, I lifted my nightgown up and without me saying anything, she started gently scratching my back all over while I closed my eyes to rest. When she's scratching my back, I'm not having any weird sexual thoughts like the NT's try to imply it means. All I'm doing is closing my eyes and trying to block out everything around me to make me only focus on her nails soothing my tired, itching back and relieving all my stress and anxiety. Last night she did it for about 20 minutes while I closed my eyes before she said that I should go to bed as I was falling asleep. I asked her for 5 more minutes, but got up sooner and just asked for one last shoulder blade scratching. Once she was done, I pulled my nightgown back on and told her half asleep that my back felt so much better to which she said she was glad.

Getting my back scratched sometimes helps me fall asleep better. It helps me feel relaxed and happy. Plus, getting my back thoroughly scratched ensures all the itchy spots get relieved. Sometimes I have to direct her how and where to scratch me, but usually I just let her do it her way knowing that if I have an itchy spot, she'll get to it. Am I weird for feeling this way?

I also reciprocate the favor sometimes. Tonight when my mom sat up, I pulled up her nightgown a bit without saying anything and just started scratching her back. She immediately started directing me to all the itchy spots by saying "go over. A little more up. Yes! That's the spot!" Followed by "Okay, go up a little bit more and towards the other side. Now go down." Each time I hit a "hotspot", I asked "Is this spot bothering you right now? Okay I'll scratch here for now." After I hit all her requests, I just started gently scratching it all over for her. After about 5 minutes of her arching her neck and back, she said that she felt much better and thanked me. She never asked me for a back scratch, but I just could sense that she needed it tonight. I personally just think it's something nice you can do for your loved ones that doesn't cost anything, but helps them a lot. I should also add that I would never ask a stranger to do it or even a friend. I only let her do it with me partially unclothed in the privacy of our own home. Any thoughts?

Nothing wrong with that, like just sounds like you guys care about each other. Like idk your mom is able to give you a good back scratch and sometimes you give her one to. I certainly do not see what is wrong with that unless your mom tried being inappropriate with you during them.

Also, various great apes groom each other, like combing through their fur to pick out bugs and stuff but is also a bonding thing with primates. We humans are also primates so do the math, lol it is not so weird that you and your mom scratch each others backs.