ASD and being in love

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I've been thinking a lot about the idea of liking someone very much, eg a woman.

It is is sometimes said that people with ASD feel and express being in love different than people with NT. It is also said that we actually are very similar to people with NT in many ways.

What are your experiences with this?

I know of one person with ASD who sometimes starts to cry when he gets reminded of how much he loves a specific woman. He gets very emotional.
He doesn't look like the man who is feeling high like many people in love do.

Is that an ASD thing?

I find that one of the two times I've developed a romantic attachment, it's lasted a very long time. Uhhh, I think more than 6 years at this point? And still kinda going.

I've personally attributed that to being grey-aromantic/demiromantic: falling in love being so rare that when I do, it sticks for a long long time.

But it could also be a part of my BPD, people with BPD tend to form extremely strong attachments. "Favorite Person", we call, it, or "FP" for short. So it could also be related to that.

And autism could be the main influencer, idk.

i dont form romantic attachments often but when i do they are very strong and last a long time.


for example there is someone i havent seen for several years that i formed feelings for and they are still strong. even though it is very unlikely i will ever have a relationship with them.