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I was wondering if it's normal for Aspies to have trouble talking and communicating? or am I just like that due to how I grew up? I am hard on myself and confused because I Know everything that is going on, such as with work, dating and life in general, yet I am not able to talk well, have meltdowns emotionally, cry in private, depressed at times. The analogy I often use is at times I feel like a 'T800' trying to learn behaviors, or just withdrawn and a loner like Daryl from The Walking Dead

yes the struggles with communication are one of the ways autism itself is diagnosed. If you can easily communicate, you cant get an autism diagnosis! So if you are diagnosed as autistic ( I understand this must be the fact, in your question) then it is "natural" or "normal" for you (and me and every other autistic person) to have struggles of many or any sorts of communication. You are definitely not alone!

To be diagnosed as autistic you have to have "struggles with communication", "struggles with social things", and "repetitive and inflexible behavior and thinking processes". Without those 3 things, we can not get a diagnosis of autism.

Asperger's was/is supposedly the type of autism where verbal IQ and being able to communicate well, is least impacted.

It would be more common for somebody with a different type of autism to have issues communicating.

I was hyperlexic as a child (learned to read basic things on my own before schooling). Although I had extremely good grades in written exams I struggled terribly with oral exams and assessments and I still do. There's a marked difference between my ability to communicate in written form vs oral form. It's like my brain "stumbles" on words or they all come out the wrong way and I get lost in details - I also don't get the cues of when it's time to talk and time to listen. Pretty classic I guess. That's why I don't answer the phone most of the time.

[/quote]I have the same communication phenotype![/quote]

It's partly what led to my formal dx: my doctor was baffled by the discrepancies between my verbal abilities and my writing abilities. But then my communication is somewhat not "normal" even when I write - as many here may have noticed. It's extremely frustrating IRL and leads to extended periods of silence and aloofness. Some would call it social misery I guess. I hope things are somewhat easier for you. ***Edited: I thought I was in the "getting to know you thread".

Communication is not something I'm great at. I don't speak much. I used to go mute a lot. I still do now and then but not so much as I used to. Stress makes that worse for me. My abilities to express myself and my thoughts aren't in line with my abilities to comprehend things around me or things I absorb. Though in all fairness, I am in my head a lot, so I often do miss things around me and end up being oblivious to a lot. But yeah, it's pretty common for those of us on the spectrum to have troubles with talking and communicating. It's not a just you thing.