Are you socially competitive?

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Are aspies as socially competitive as NTs? Having as the highest value to strive for to have more money than anyone around them, and material comforts, fame, prestige, popularity, at the expense of genuinely caring relationships, enjoyable free time, a more leisurely pace in life, and intellectually stimulating pursuits?

I think that trait varies across humans, I wouldn't say all NT's are socially competitive.

My guess is that aspies are not as socially competitive as NTs in the respects that you mentioned. I know that I am not socially competitive as you put it. I like to do my own thing. The things that make me happy and satisfied are different from those of others, particularly NTs so there's not much opportunity for competition there.

I am not materialistic. I don't particularly care about fashion, although I do have my own sense of style which shows in how I dress myself. I don't care about what my car looks like. Sometimes competitive people might assume I'm competing and make some inuendo about how their 'whatever it is', is better than mine, or somehow subtly denigrate my 'whatever it is'. I just laugh, because a.) I don't care, and b.) it brings out the hilarity in what people put stake in.

I used to (and still) want to be a famous person involved in something famously controversial... like Schapelle Corby, Elizabeth Smart, Jessica Lynch, Natascha Kampusch and Karla Homolka.

who are all those people?

Look em up on Wikipedia. I take it you don't watch the international news very often?

no I don't watch much TV -

Only one name rings a bell: Elizabeth Smart, a kidnapping victim. So you want to be kidnapped?

I guess it might be cool... if I were 14 years old and I was kidnapped by this lady:

I trust you guys know who this woman is.

haha pretty girls always get off the hook

and no im not socially competative at all. quite the opposite infact

I dream about being famous and filthy rich since I was 10 When you are really rich you can afford everything you want and do what you want and express the most controversial opinions. I would love to be a powerful dictator of a country - it wouldn't have to necessarily be a big country but I'd love to exercise absolute power there, to play with people like in the Sims I admit I'm power hungryand I'd love being admired and afraid of

You want to be involved in something controvesial like Karla Homolka was???
So you want to witness rape and help murder young girls with your boyfriend. Uhm, wow.

Well, I've had my share of narcissistic fantasies. They usually involve becoming a renowned manga artist.

Well, regarding me:

Are aspies as socially competitive as NTs?

NOPE!

Having as the highest value to strive for to have more money than anyone around them

NOPE! My original income goal was just about average.

material comforts

NOPE! I just want the basics.

fame, prestige, popularity

NOPE! I'm hoppy just with those that know me respecting and liking me.

at the expense of genuinely caring relationships

I would be ECSTATIC if I had one!

enjoyable free time

ALAS, I don't get enough.

a more leisurely pace in life

ALAS, I don't get enough.

and intellectually stimulating pursuits?

Well, I am certainly trying to keep up with this to some degree.

I love to have a bit of competition with people. For example someone buys a new mobile that is better than mine I will go out and buy a better one so I can have the best one. I have alot of fun doing that.

I've known aspies that were extremely socially competitive, though I myself am not. I don't think there's anything in the universal qualities of Asperger's that would directly affect whether one is socially competitive or not, like it affects whether one is socially...social...partyingness...can't think of a word...

Social competition makes me nervous NTS have a way of cutting me down to size despite any financial asset, model of phone, car I may have (not that I have ever had any of these ego boosting items in my possesion!). I don't like the way socialising has this status / competition streak running through it.