Are you embarrassed to do what's socially right even tho

Post Reply New Topic

...you know it's right?


Me, sometimes. Like, if my mother tells me to do something, I'll do it in my own good time so that she won't think that I'm doing it because she told me to, so that she'll know I have a mind of my own, so that she'll know I know and it will put her right without me having to tactlessly tell her that I already KNOW. But then when she keeps badgering me, I'll put it off and put it off, and make excuses... and maybe I'll do it eventually, to show her and because I really want to do it, but sometimes I avoid doing it because then she'll make an embarrassing big deal of it.


This happened mostly years ago when I was a kid, not so much if at all now.


Has anyone else fallen into this trap/cycle?

Yes, with the exact reasoning you described. Less, now, but it still makes me feel weird to do anything i was just told to do, even if I'd been about to do it anyway.

I know, and what I really hate is when I'm about to do something but then someone tells me to do it, and then when I so it everyone thinks I did it because I was told to!

No.

Tim

It is the SAME with me! If I were president of the US, I wouldn't stop funding Israel, even though I WOULD like to. WHY? Because the Moslem extremists would view it as capitulation because of fear of them. The funding of israel, which has obviously done so much to make them mad is, by ITSELF, almost prima facie proof that we have no fear of them.

Tim tex,

Either you just can't put 2 and 2 together, or you are VERY lucky! One of the cheif ironies in life is that a person asking you to do things that benefit you or while they have some authority, give you a reason NOT to do it because they figure you respect their authority or owe them something.

I suppose it is like implying that they have some sort of control over you when you immediately do what they tell you to.
But when you put it off for a while it becomes more of a suggestion that you 'thought' about and decided on your own to do it. The badgering to do something just resets the amount of waiting time needed to own the suggestion.

I like to respond to requests to do something that I was already planning on doing with a "Already on my list of things to do." or "Already working on that."

I have always had issues with control and authority.
I always felt very angry when anyone tried to tell me what to do or put themselves above me. I still do.
It would often be WW3 when my mother tried to make me wear something I didn't like, or wanted to wash the outfit I had become attached to, or ordered me to clean my room etc.

Honestly, I don't think this is an Asperger's thing, more just a normal kid/teenage bullheaded thing. No one likes to be told what to do, AS or NT.

Damn kids these days got no respect! COME ON, YOU WERE THINKING IT TOO!

I am just kidding.