Brain Differences Or Trauma

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I was wondering is it just a normal Aspie issue to have private emotional meltdowns and crying easily, if something upsets you and past trauma? I was scaring myself because I have been having these episodes for 3 or 4 nights now. The trigger for me being uncomfortable around women at work, I try to communicate but feel '' paralyzed'' to a certain degree emotionally, and past experiences with women don't help, everyone else just ''flows'' naturally and have a good time with each other, but some of the women have to ask if I am ok or if anything is wrong. I always wondered if the Aspie brain is highly sensitive, and prone to being affected by the past, and its all catching up to me at 38

Perhaps it is, as we are generally very sensitive people, prone to being victimised easily. Also, what can be traumatic for us may not seem that big of a deal to normal people. again, probably because we can be just so sensitive.

I myself feel the same, but around men, also due to trauma. It's just all too much for my already fragile mind to handle. 

Regarding having crying meltdowns, I really think anyone can go through that, Aspie or not. Stuff either gets to you or it doesn't. 

I've had times when I would cry watching Grand Designs (Architect show on TV) I would get overwhelmed by watching other people achieve so much. 

So having experienced all this myself for probably decades. The best advice I can give is just go with the emotions, don't fight them or try to hold them down. When you're sad, cry. When you're happy, laugh. Sometimes you might not feel anything at all, and that's ok too.

It's all part of being a human.

Not like every aspie gets alotta choice ....all that extra neural wiring,That Autistic brains are suppose to have ...is bound to make some parts of the brain, perhaps alittle more responsive than others ??. .....

The brain differences can exist before trauma.

Trauma is an undesirable outcome that can cause other brain differences that isn't there before the trauma.

And both are not even up to the individual, especially initially.
Trauma's root cause can even be before conception and may came from several generations ago, and brain differences is a luck draw in genetics during conception which can change depending in the environment.


I'd say brain differences itself doesn't necessarily mean sensitivity.
Some may be lucky that theirs can be sensitive but are resilient and will take so much before dysregulation happens, let alone trauma wounds.
Others, not so...

Trauma, too, but in paradoxical ways; becoming more sensitive and reactive or becoming too sensitive that the mind's mechanism is to shutdown/dissociate/'be insensitive' -- both are dysregulation based reactions.
In turn, when it happens often enough, becomes a habit and that habit will influence the way your brain works.

Downside of neuroplasticity, perhaps.


Ever read about dandelions and orchids?
It's a study of genetics and environment.
The former is supposedly more adapted to the environment and the latter is supposedly more sensitive and needs more nurturing -- very prone to dysregulation.

Autistics seem to fall to the latter. Obviously in need of a different environment to thrive.
If not, well -- there's a high chance to have a slew of mental illnesses and metabolic diseases among those who are not lucky enough to have them.
And it can even start before birth.


Personally, I'm sensitive.
I'm aware of it since as a child and understand it's effects.
But I don't want anything to do with it -- because I cannot truly adapt to it. I know I'm safe -- but I don't want the need for safety, I want to be free.

Free from whatever similar with what you may have to deal.
In the most basic of sense, I don't mind the sensitivity as long as it's also free from dysregulation.

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The title of the post is a little different to your general question:

1. ASD is associated with brain inflammation in many cases. Inflammation is a biological marker that something is wrong

2. Yes Aspies are influenced by the past trauma. Even when you think you have escaped it the trauma will come back again and again when you least expect

Thank you very very much .

I think it's both in my case. Growing up knowing who I am on the inside (male) and being told otherwise can be traumatizing. It can be traumatizing being in love in college as an aspie with poor social skills just to be mentally and emotionally abused by that person in the end. It can also be traumatizing to get yelled at all the time for talking about your special interests by the person who gave birth to you. Being given the cold shoulder every time one of my favourite celebrities passes away doesn't feel good at all. I've also put myself through 5 grueling years of high school when the school I went to went from 8 to 12. You can't be different from your peers in high school....that's a no-no.

It's also the extra brain wiring as well. Having all that brain wiring can make me an emotionally sensitive person at times.

Just btw....incase its not obvious .. as you age..your body will become alittle less able to handle trauma, I think .
From brain swelling to cortisol levels in the blood, to bruised knees . ..
But been trying hard to keep that sort of stuff under control ..Generally through supplement .

Yes.

It does come back to hunt you , as a PTSD. I have seen it in myself and other people I have diagnosed (I am a psychologist). I believe it is that when something happens 1. we are very sensitive to it, 2. we cannot express the feeling when its happening, so it comes back again and again in doses, as it can be stored very well in the long term memory it pops out when its triggered.. We need more research on this though and how it's stored in the memory and replayed back and again.