Has anyone succeeded in arguing with an NT?

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I don't know,
I used to feel like I could express myself pretty well, but it feels increasingly like
there's this kind of enshittification of discourse.
People resort to nonsense ad-hominem, gibberish. I feel like I cannot think anymore after so much BS.
People rarely listen to my detailed points. They don't want to understand.

Today someone said "I feel like the moral relativism card is something people play when they are backed into a corner".

I never thought about arguments in terms of cards before. Are we supposed to notice what everyone says in terms of some kind of card game and notice how they respond all the time?
That sounds EXHAUSTING.

Yes. I find not being condescending or talking to people like they're irrational imbeciles helps a lot.

I've put some in prison, so you could say yes.

Succeeded in arguing? Sure. its easy to start an argument.

I can't be bothered to argue. I usually try to find some aspect of what they are saying that I agree with and go with that. I don't want to argue. It just upsets me. And it's not going to change anyone's mind. When I'm talking with someone face to face I want to enjoy their humanity and don't want to argue if I can help it. (Some people of course will press a particular button that will make me angry, but I hope to avoid that, not engage with it.)

I try not to argue online either, though I sometimes fail, and have done so on WP...

People who argue in bad faith simply aren't worth engaging. But finding people who wish to argue in good faith is difficult.

Yes, but it depends what you mean by succeeding. I've sometimes been able to shut them up in a verbal combat, if that counts. But at such times they've usually started the argument in bad faith and I've descended to their level, which can be quite satisfying in a sense, like it would be if somebody punched me and I gave as "good" as I got and showed the bastard the folly of messing with me, but there's something rather immature and brutal about it all and I'd really much rather have mutual courtesy.

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I suppose that's true of some physical fights, though I don't think I've ever knocked anybody to the floor. It's also metaphorically true of some of the verbal altercations I've been in, if the level in question is about who is the strongest bad-faith arguer, but then there's the moral or aesthetic(?) high and low ground, and I meant that really. But you're joking aren't you?

I get served regularly on WP....so I can vouch for a fair number of success stories

The willingness to engage in sincere debate is a rare quality, whether one is neurotypical (NT) or has autism. Winning a debate is good, provided that the opponent is prepared for a graceful surrender.

More or less.

The key here, I think in my experience, is either being very internally regulated to not tilt into giving up and actually play them with bluffs -- or be one of those external fact based person who do not have to need said internal regulation or bluffing.

The ideal is being both.
Being the one with the charm or having everyone's side is a bonus; a crutch in helplessness when it came to arguments.

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Hmmmm...

An argument in which...the difference of opinion stemmed from...different thinking styles. Different thinking styles that seemed to stem from me being aspie and the other person being NT?

I had a running argument with a low level supervisor lady that probably had to do with that sorta thing. Finally it came to a head after months when I asked her one simple question. Instead reacting the way I expected ...by either saying "you're right..I must have had a temporary brain-fart", OR by persuading ME that I had a brain fart... she ...literally broke down and cried tears right in front of me. So I...just backed off at that point. Dont know if "reducing the other person to tears without even trying to" counts as "winning an argument",or not.

But the argument had to do with a completely irrational thing she would say...and her loyal subordinates would buy into it...or pretend to buy into it. I would call her out.