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I moved into college recently. It's a small private school in the Raleigh, North Carolina area, and I'm struggling. I don't really fit in well with the guys on my hall, and I've only met one person outside of that group since I got here. I've been in a treatment facility for the year and a half immeidately proceeding this, and I almost keep looking for someone to tell me exactly what I should be doing. I was diagnosed there last November, and they told me I was a very "mild" case, but after having done research on my own I recognize alot a things I do that i didn't bring up because I didn't know. They didn't have much of a program there to help AS kids, and I can't get used to all the people here. I will think "I need to try to go talk to someone" but as I'm walking towards them someone else will join them, and I can't make myself join a group uninvited. Can someone give me some advice? Is there anyone in this area I could talk to?

ive never been to college but i think its brave you are atleast trying. hang in there!

I'll be starting college in January (I just have two or three classes to get through first). Hopefully things will improve for you!

Unfortunately, there's really not much you can do, as everything you’ve just revealed is a part of Asperger’s. I knew, and know no one in college; people recognize me and I recognize them, but that's as far as I can “socialize” out there with people I don't know beforehand.

Ill tell ya, I went to collage, I went to a private school also, tho it was in the mountains, an area I had plenty of escape (and needed it much).

I did very well in school, always had deans list every semester. Unforunatly I never finished. Their were a few things that did me in in the end. The roommate thing was the worse, not that I did not get along with them, but lets face it we are not really good at dealing with situations like that. I know i often needed privacy, my own space that was secure and stable. Having a roommate was not horrible, u get used to it, but It will really hurt ya and not only would I have finished school, i probably woulda done even better, what a waste in the end, i graduated only with a 2 year degree, and i work a job that most ppl have GED's or high school, the only 1 who has collage expeirence.

Since you probably have a roommate, as most do, you will definatly need a private area. If you enjoy the outdoors and their is plenty around then their ya go. Ive been snowshoueing in -25 degrees and ive hiked a number of mountains, some more then once most just north of the high peaks in NYS

The socail thing was a bit weird for me. I hung out with ppl, but also kept to myself, I had too much time around ppl and the outdoor esxursions became increasing in length of time, how far into the wilderness I would go (alone, even had a bear encounter while halfway up this mountain, hehehehe). But sometimes I would just talk to someone or at least get noticed in class. It does not hurt if ya like to party, seriously, this is another big issue, or can be, that effected my outcome, You wanna have friends and chill, but you gotta go to class and keep up with the work + be functional for exams. I had moderate sucess making friends, actually hung out with some kids from a town on the US-Canadian border about 30miles north of my school. I had many good times outdoors, that was my favorite memory, being at the school was a different thing, when not in class or no work, i needed escape DESPERATLY. You will make friends, tutor (I tutored for a semseter, gave me spending $$$) talk to ppl in class, your roommate and neghboors, maby go to a party (first 1 is rough at collage, but I doubt they wont like ya, uneque individuals are usually cool on campus.

towards the end I started slacking, and quickly just could not manage anymore, when I always did well. Other things transpired, it was tough, I was done by november of 2005, 2 semesters shy of a degree.

I absolutly recomend you find your own living accomodations, TOP thing, if possible. I dont want ya to make the same mistakes I did, heh. Good luck keep us posted.