I didn't have a clue with some of mine, because I took their BS at face value.
When I spoke up I was gaslit and told I was wrong, or that it was my fault.
Sometimes I didn't speak up at all but blamed myself anyway.
I knew my violent trauma was traumatic because it was violent.
Even then, I kind of blamed myself because that's what they groomed me to do.
Mindgames and manipulation were harder to understand or detect.
Sometimes entire systems were involved (police, courts, etc.)
I assumed they were "right" and I was "wrong", and I should trust them.
Only later did I find out there was collusion involved.
I didn't even know cPTSD existed when I was developing it.
This was pre-internet, at least at the start.
I think it's different for everyone, depending what they've experienced.
It's hard to judge what's acceptable behaviour in others, especially NTs.
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Beatles