Would you move to a farm house?

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A farm house in the prairies, with a few acres of land with grass, some trees, large vegetable garden...etc. It's a 20 minute drive to a large town. Do you think that would be a good place for an autistic man to live?

My husband will inherit such a property once his parents are too old to take care of the farm. Originally we thought we would sell it for sure, but then I thought maybe we can live in it for a while because we love his parents' house. But then we love our house, too and it's too far to drive between the two places often. His whole extended family live in that place, we're the only ones who moved away. Then I thought: what if we let our younger son inherit it? He's very quiet and disabled enough to qualify for disability. So he'll likely never be able to afford his own place. As far as I know everyone else who collects disability either live with their parents or rent a room in some basement. I'm sure he'll want his own house as he grows.

He'll have help if he needs it and some social life, as two aunts live next door, and lots of cousins around. Everybody knew he's "special" and has been very nice to him so far. I've never talked about this to anyone yet. Just brainstorming. Grandpa and grandma probably wouldn't mind if we keep it in the family and not sell it. They won't even need to change the sign as he carries the family name. He can have pets that are not allowed here and maybe learn to grow his own food. I just want to give him the best chance for a near normal life.

If you're in your 20s and have always lived with your parents in the city, would you like such an opportunity to live on your own? Will you feel OK if your parents are quite far away? Will you be intimidated by all the things you'll need to learn to live on a rural property?

I'd move to a farm house. It would be nice and peaceful out in the country.

I would totally live in a farm house.

I did.
For the last 23 years I've lived on 21 acres carved out of the middle of a state forest.
We stocked alpacas and bred hundreds. We did the state show circuit and won lots of ribbons.
I learned to shear, trim teeth and nails and give injections.
I have loved this place since the moment we got here, and I'm feeling rather lost now it's time to move on, since we no longer have the energy required to maintain the property.

If I didn't have to worry about having a job yes I would. I've thought it would be nice to live someplace like Wyoming or The Dakotas or rural Minnesota. Someplace away from a bunch of A-hole people.

A rural property is great (love ours!) but also requires a lot of skill and effort to maintain.
You have to become a jack of all trades, learn how to fix fences, control weeds and feral animals, fell trees, cut firewood, drive a tractor with a slasher and grader, basic plumbing, welding, building, mechanics etc...otherwise have the money to pay someone to do it (we don't!)

It wouldn't be a good place for me to live because I can't drive, for one thing. I lived in the country when I was a kid and it would take about 30 minutes to drive to the city where I live. I really respect my mom for taking that time driving here twice a week just to take me out shopping. Especially with the gas prices and covid and climate change. I just can't come and go as I please like I did when I was younger and the world was slightly less horrible.