I was reading Tony Attwood's book on Asperger's, and at one point he describes different coping methods children may develop in order to deal with their differences. One of them was by observing others and learning to emulate the people who are socially successful. When I read that I immediately realized how accurate that was of me. Especially during my last couple years of high school, I had one friend who was very NT, and by the end of high school, I talked and acted very similarly to him; same slang, same accent, same movements, etc. I even copied the way he walked, because the way I walked was apparently very awkward, at least that's what I was told. I still have to consciously think about walking like a normal person, I don't know what the natural way I walk looks like but people always said it looked weird.
In the book, he went on to say that Aspies like this can develop a really good ability to mimic. I am very good at accents, as long as I have heard enough of what they sound like, and I can sometimes even imitate a person's unique way of speaking, as long as I am quoting them or have heard them talk for a decent amount of time. I can't remember why, but I was recounting something somebody said to me to someone else at school once, and when I quoted him imitating his voice, the person I was talking to said something like, "Wow, that sounded exactly like him, seriously!"
I think this is why I haven't had a horrible time in social interactions in my more recent years (it was pretty bad when I was a kid). I usually am able to analyze the personality of the person or group as a whole, and after a little while I can interact and seem somewhat normal. I am pretty sure, though, that after a certain amount of time, people realize I'm kind of a fake. For a long time I felt like I didn't know who I was anymore, I had no idea I had Asperger's, and I'd been imitating NTs for so long that I'd do it even alone out of habit. I could always tell it wasn't my actual personality but I had forgotten what it was. This actually poses a problem for me now, too, as people who have known me would still say I was nothing more than a bit eccentric, and only I know it was all an act. I think that's why I am having a hard time convincing them to even consider it.
But anyway, I was just wondering if anyone else could relate.