It is weird that I don't like it when people call me "young"

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On March 19th I will be turning 41. I feel middle aged, not exactly young. People still tell me I'm young but I don't think so. To me 25 is young, not 41. I feel when people call me "young" they are taking away how I feel about my age even though according to my hairdresser I have no grey hairs.

It can be difficult to discern what someone means when they say "young". For example, they might mean you seem vibrant and energetic. They might mean that your appearance is youthful. They could mean that they think you are acting foolishly.

The uncertainty may contribute to an ill feeling.

I can imagine how.

Like how dissonating the assumption could be, relative to either how one feels in the inside or/and how they view themselves, along with other implications like inexperience, and the lack of concept of respect and assumption of competence that came with seniority.



I'm still at a stage where being called young is flattering.
I'm almost 30 now, still being mistaken for someone half my age.

And it'll end soon.

Not because of what I feel and how much history I have nor that I expected more assumption of competence from others, but because of something else; that to me, young means there's something I can outgrow overtime.

That something that I didn't want to be true can be untrue, naturally with time.

But that never happened to me.

I can never rely over the "too young/young enough narrative" anymore.
I wanna rely on how much I can definitely outwork myself.

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