No autistic people in Gonzales Louisiana

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So I've been searching constantly online ruthlessly online every group every forum every social circle every video game every video game app everywhere to try to find people to make friends with around me I've been on every dating app that can be imagined have spent probably $5,000 in the last 3 years on dating apps I've been to every public place that I can think of and that I can find to try to make friends and I'm only now realizing that I might be the only autistic person in the whole Gonzales Louisiana and I'm also coming to realize that I will never have a girlfriend so I am to the point to where is the devil himself hears me then I will make a deal My soul for a girlfriend, and I am dangerously dead serious cuz I am that desperate, Even tried and wasted $4,000 tryst. And sadly nothing helps My sister has on her own family, yet I'm so jealous I can't even bother to call her to tell her Merry Christmas because I'm so jealous of everything she has and that jealousy has cut her off completely from me I live with my father but he goes off to his girlfriend's house for Christmas My entire family gets together for Christmas I'm never invited cuz they don't live around here except for my father and I'm not invited to her house I would trade my soul for a girlfriend even if that girlfriend was a demon I don't even care I just wish I had a girlfriend and I would trade salvation at this point for it, because loneliness is as bad as being burned alive and tortured and hell to me.

Holy cow.
There are a thousand Thai girls who would marry you for what you've spent on dating apps.
I'm not sure about the concept of voluntary exploitation of disadvantaged foreigners, but you should see the queues of white men doing their regular visa runs into Laos.
The couples I met there seemed happy with their arrangements.

Strange . . . these are the top two "hits" on my Google search, both in Gonzales, Louisiana:

 Mercy Autism Center 

 Center for Autism & Related Disorders 

So there MUST be other autistic people near where you live.

As for the "Can't Get a Girlfriend" issue, try posting in the "Love & Dating" subforum.

theres a love in datingh sub forum? Where, im still larning to navigate this forum

Under the Forums main page is a list of categories & the forums within those categories. Love and Dating is under the Coping in Life one.

When I was 40 I decided I'd had so little success with romance I concluded I was never going to marry. That I should just accept that and stop worrying about it.

I still went places to mingle with other people but I was not looking for a girlfriend.

And before long I was at a party and met a gal I didn't know. We had a pleasant conversation but...from what she told me about herself I concluded I was unlikely ever to meet her again.

I later learned she had a different perception. She was disappointed I had not asked for her telephone number! Heck, even when I was looking for a girlfriend, asking for phone numbers was beyond what I was comfortable with.

A few months later she was trying to help a friend but came across something that she didn't know anyone who could help. Then she remembered me and realized *I* could help...and I'd given her enough information she was able to get my telephone number.

She telephoned me hoping I could do a favor for her friend. It would not require me to meet her or her friend in person. But while we were on the phone I realized there was another way I could help her that would require a brief meeting. I checked and she was interested in the favor. Then, and only then, I noted that since we would be meeting each other, would she like to dine out.

We recently celebrated our twenty-fifth wedding anniversary!

I'm certainly no expert. My track record proves that. But I now suspect it might guys to do three things:
-- Go to places where you can casually mingle with gals without the mingling being too weird
-- Be nice to the gals but do not think of them as candidates or prospects...just as people to be nice to
-- Be useful to them. Help them when you can with no expectation of anything in return.

I don't know if that will help you find gals to date but at least you'll get to talk to them.

P.S. My bride is not Autistic. She is ADHD, however.

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I'd say be careful what you wish for, though I remember how it felt when I was young and needed love that I couldn't find. I'd have accepted anything in a skirt. Eventually I realised I had to be picky, and I thought "that's it, I'm doomed. Nobody wants me anyway." It's hard to be a drowning man and yet have the self-control to avoid clutching at straws.

If your jealousy feelings are as strong as that, it might be better to take a look at those before trying to launch into a close relationship. I think jealousy can be a useful survival tool to some extent, but if it gets too much control it can ruin everything. Actually what you have sounds more like envy than jealousy, but I guess the same applies. The two are strongly related. I never used to feel happy for other people who had found love. I just used to think "where's mine, you bastards?"

It's a very tough hole to climb out of, being partnerless when everybody else seems to be happily sorted. Impossible not to feel desperate and resentful. Almost as hard to avoid acting desperate and resentful, but the more you can avoid it, the more things are likely to go your way. At least you know how you feel. That's a good start.

PS: The Love And Dating forum isn't especially about Aspies looking for romantic encounters with other Aspies, it's more about relationship problems, though wanting a partner is no bar to participating there.