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This weekend I have had a really bad argument with my mother that got sort of physical. It was about money and getting things. She didn't aprove of things I was planning on getting or she was upset and felt that I was not being responsable I told her I'll pay the electric bill, but things got really heated when I told her she didn't help me out that much with trying to get more money through social security it's this program or somthing that helps you out more with benifts if your still in school and under 22. She got upset and started cusing at me and she told me to leave her alone, but I want to try to fix things and work things out with her. Well really not to my liking at all it got physical I had gotten in her face and she wanted to call the police but I took the phone from her and things got worse, I didn't hit her tho.

I didn't want things to turn out like this AGAIN, becuse last time when I was much younger it was a really physical fight and I really don't want it to happen again, I should of walked away but I wanted to solve the problem and get to an understanding but it fell apart. I don't want this to happen again please help me!

Oh and I have high funtioning Asperger's, depresstion and anxiety.

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Tim

yes sinsbodly, you're right, It just hurt me so much of why she was cusing at me when I didn't raise my voice or cuss at her. I didn't mean for the conversation to go crazy, I didn't mean to do what I did. Then I got this phone call from her friend saying she's gonna f me up and put her foot in my ass and all that and then after awhile she calmed down alittle and talked to me. She helped me alittle but I feel she shouldn't have done all that negitive stuff if she really cared about me and my mother relationship. Then she was suggesting that my mother can do whatever she wants to me like hit me for no reason and stuff. Me and my mother made up today and yesterday but I still feel bad about what happend and wished I just walked away, and I don't think I'll talk to her friend again, she's pretty violent she stabbed her husband a couple times and has some serious anger issues. Her part in the whole thing was wrong and she could of said things much better than she did.

My mother said that I should think more about what I need than what I want. I feel that she should have told me this early on and in a good way as I have no problem accepting this advice, sometimes I have problems with that but I don't think I would have if she said it early on. Before I heard that I wasn't sure what she wanted from me, I was thinking she just wanted my money or somthing. If she needed help with something I wouldn't mind helping.

My mother has just told me she had anger issues in the past. She used to throw bookshelves down the steps and stuff. I don't know what to think of that it kind of distants me from her a bit, does explan some stuff tho.

Me and my mother has very few problems, we usally get along really well, she's under some stress with trying to ready home school for my brother and sisters. She also has a lump in her throat, hope it's not serious.

I just hope this doesn't happen again, how can I keep this from happening again for sure, I don't want it to happen again, please help.

wow,
I would suggest you find a job and pay some rent and get yourself into your own space.
It is the only thing I know is to put some distance between you two.

meet at a coffee shop or some sort of place in public when you discuss things, the being around other people will chill you both enough to keep it from really going nuts. At least if it DOES go nuts you are less likely to be calling 911 for a ambulance when either one of you finally lose it.

Merle

thanks, I really wish it not to go as far as me moving out tho it is a good idea I just don't know how to go about doing that and then I just hope I'm ready or in a good position to move out as I have extended high school and tech school. Things is getting back to normal tho, I'm going to see if we can both get some counseling and just have a good relationship which we have most of the time as this only happend 2 times, the last was 7, 6 years ago. I just hope next time I think more about myself during a argument and just walk out instead of worring about the other person and what they are doing or saying to me, I really really hope this never happens again.

well goodluck with that. me and my mother fight often, recently she wanted me to buy the friggin grocheries and its like yo moms im happy eating top ramen noodles for every meal, and shes all "oh no i want my f*****g expencive ass tv dinners!" ultimatley i told her she was a picky sob and i wasnt buying Sh-t. thats how that ended