How old were you when you finally moved out on your own?

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DD has made the following annoucement..."When I hit 18 and get a job, I'm out of here! And I'm taking the cat too!" Well, DH and I just about had cramps trying to keep from laughing. And it has nothing to do with being an Aspie, either. Just the sheer challenge for her to make it out there boggols the mind. I am only 39, and frankly, I have never lived on my own until age 35. When I was finally forced to face it, I was scared to death. I made it, but it sure was hairy and first, and my, having no cable sucked, to say the least!

I was just wondering how you all made it, and perhaps you won't mind sharing some tips/hints for me to share with DD?

I left my mums to live with my dad when I was 17. I was practically living on my own though.. he didn't feed me, I paid rent and paid towards the bills. I hardly even spoke to him most of the time. He didn't even notice the abuse my boyfriend was giving me (he lived there too). So I see that as living on my own.

I ended up going back to my mums, and lasted for a year and a half. Then at 19 I moved out to go to uni. Now I'm living with my partner. I haven't lived on my own completely (the uni house consisted of 3 ppl, me included, but I lived in my room and hardly left it apart from obvious reasons), but I've been living independently since I was 17. Hell, I was washing and ironing my own clothes by 13, and feeding myself once I was 14. My mum wasn't exactly the doting type.

Give her all the support she needs. That's all you can do. I struggled a hell of a lot, but I did manage it. I wouldn't advise it though. If she wants to make it on her own and you don't think she can do that, give her whatever help she needs to get on her own two feet.

I was 27 when I moved out. In fact, I just moved out just over a week ago.

Tim

Well, I started my own business before I was 18. I didn't charge that much, and frankly took a LONG time to move out, but I could have moved out earlier. There were probably about 7 things I could have done that had a good chance of making me as much as 250K a year. Granted, my social skills, competition, economic climate, etc... limit that, etc... but the 250K is what some HAVE done. Right now, I am working for someone else and STILL making a very good salary.

So don't laugh, ENCOURAGE and SUPPORT!

I moved out when I was 17 to a livein baby sitting job, but I didn't get along with kids too well - so when my parents moved out because my dad got transfered on his job, I went with them to their new town. I hated it and two months before my 18th birthday I moved into my own little place over a house near a university because the other girl had to leave school because she got pregnant. A week later the man that lived downstairs let himself in to my apartment and when I came out of the shower threw me down on the bed to rape me. I kicked him so hard he complained to my folks but I had already moved out and my parents had the police pick me up and take me to jail
Then they put me in the mental institution for observation for why I kicked that nice old man.

I finally struggled up through the thorazine fog and started hiding them behind my teeth until I was clear enough to walk off the grounds one day and I didn't stop until I reached Bethel, New York and found myself at the Woodstock Festival.

I was 18 by then, on my own and completely bereft of family, friends or funds.

it has been 40 years from that day to this, which I muddled through on my own.

I officially moved out early this year when I was 18, then found myself needing to come back soon after :/

I first moved out at 23. Things fell apart rather quickly, and I ran back when I was 25.

I move out for good when I was 31 because, well, there wasn't any home or family left to me..

And so it goes for the last twenty years.

Damn..

I left home at 14 to attend uni, I graduated in 1 year and then sailed around the world aboard a sail training ship. When I returned 4 years later I attended Graduate school and lived alone on a boat. Since I was 14 I’ve never stayed more 3 days with any of my family; even that was infrequent. Except for a short stint in Montana I’ve never lived on land; always on a boat. The most total time I’ve spent on land was in hotels in the various countries I’ve worked in. This post made me realize something; I guess I have never really left home, the sea is my home. It’s been 40 years since I climbed on board that ship; I wouldn’t change a thing. If I can do it so can your daughter/son, stop laughing. http://www.okcupid.com/profile?u=kit6868

I moved out at 28. I was a bit scared at first but thoroughly enjoyed being on my own. When I was laid off, the financial reality set in and I had to move into a new apartment with a roomate once I found a new job. That is where I am today. My roomate is moving on at the end of the month and I'm going back into a 1 bedroom to live on my own again... It's going o be expensive but I look forward to being able to crank my weird music and pace obsessively again!

I'm not quite sure if I was 18 or 19, but at that time the authorities decided it was unfit for me to live with my alcoholized mom, though it's possible that she pushed for it to happen too. They got me an apartment and I got a bit of kitchenware from my mom and lived on my own, with very limited cooking skills.

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Thirty one. Go, laugh if you want, I don't care.

Ed Almos

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