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I was officially diagnosed with AS quit late. At around the age of 13. I was diagnosed with an ASD when I was about 3 or 4 but nobody was shore exactly what it was. I was never tolled I had An ASD until I was diagnosed with AS. Before then I would just get frustrated because I did understand why I could not make any relationships with other people and felt like such and oddity. I have never told any one that I have AS because I was sacred that they would treat me differently or just see my as a head case or something. Now I am 16 although I have not got any real friend but I do have people how I talk to in registration and other people who I sometimes sit with at lunchtime.
Five time a week I have one to one lessons with a specialist teacher for people with Autism and This people have begun to ask where I go when I spend time with my the specialist teacher and why I act strangely at times. Any way I would like them to know but really don’t want it spreading around the school because there is another kid in my year at school with AS and when it got around the school a lot of people took the Pi** out of him. What should I do and has any one else have a similar experience?
I was officially diagnosed with AS quit late. At around the age of 13. I was diagnosed with an ASD when I was about 3 or 4 but nobody was shore exactly what it was. I was never tolled I had An ASD until I was diagnosed with AS. Before then I would just get frustrated because I did understand why I could not make any relationships with other people and felt like such and oddity. I have never told any one that I have AS because I was sacred that they would treat me differently or just see my as a head case or something. Now I am 16 although I have not got any real friend but I do have people how I talk to in registration and other people who I sometimes sit with at lunchtime.
Five time a week I have one to one lessons with a specialist teacher for people with Autism and This people have begun to ask where I go when I spend time with my the specialist teacher and why I act strangely at times. Any way I would like them to know but really don’t want it spreading around the school because there is another kid in my year at school with AS and when it got around the school a lot of people took the Pi** out of him. What should I do and has any one else have a similar experience?

I think you'll have to weigh up the pros & cons for yourself. Sure, if you tell anyone itll be out of your control who finds out & its possible youll have the piss ripped out of you - but youll still have control over how much you let that effect you. The less you let it bother you, the less reward they will get. Also your not the same as the other AS kid, its possible he was/is bullied for a complex variety of reasons (AS related or otherwise) - because he stands out as a target, rather than purely on the basis of a diagnosis, which may have been more of a catalyst.

If you want to lie just tell them you play an instrument, or say the allocated time is for a more acceptable disorder. Depends how good you are lying - prepare a story first, carefully second guessing any lines of questioning it might prompt and creating some details to make it sound natural and convincing. (dont get nervous & automatically rattle off all the fake details when questioned for the first time! )

Its september - so that means youve got a year ahead of you yes? The average maturity of your year group will have increased so hopefully thatll also lessens the likelihood & severity of being harassessed. Or, alternatively youve only got a year or so left until they all grow up and then you can tell anyone want without fear.

"If you want to lie"

Difficult to lie if you are AS... Also, not nice to lie about something which really isn't anything to be ashamed of.

My advice is to ask your teacher how to do this. Finding friends are hard, but you actually only need one. And it is worth going to classes just to get someone to help you on how to make that one friend.

With regards to telling or not: if it makes you uncomfortable, don't tell. If anyone asks, I suggest you don't lie but rather say something like "It is private". And just keep repeating that until they stop, or walk away. Unless it is someone that is trying to be nice, who would probably stop asking after your first reply .

Thank you for the advice. I decided to tell a couple of people and I went much better then could possible of planed. The first person I tolled was about to do autism in her psychology class and was very interested to find out about it. The second person I tolled mum used to me a learning support teacher of ASD kids, so she was very understanding