Telling people you have AS

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There are probably already posts about this, but at what point in a relationship (friendships, romantic relationships, whatever) do you tell people you have AS? How do you word it? What about those of you who don't have an official diagnosis?

i dont have a dx....

and no matter what way i tell them... under any kind of context... they laugh at me

once they get to know me... they still laugh at me... but it's kinda with me.

When was just self-dxed I mentioned it to a friend and was sharply rebuked. Now I have an "official" diagnosis and communicaated to another friend through an online discussion board (not this one obviously). He didn't mention anything about it specifically the next day. But then, he only read that message yesterday, so who knows how he might react later?

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I recently aquired a GF and itll be a while b4 I tell her or anybody else, ive only told a very few ppl and for fear ill be treated differently will not tell anybody anymore for a long time to come.

I have a official DX so it wouldn't be lying if I say I have it. I do have lot of the symptoms after all but I am not steriotyped what you read in books about AS.

I have told a very few men I have met just because I keep talking about it and also I go to this forum when they were around so to them it's obvious that I have it but I have told one of them I'm not truely an aspie but he still thought I had it so I told him if he met a real aspie, he would see I don't really have it because they be worse than me and mine is just very mild. But I have never told them straight up I am on the spectrum except for one guy because he happened to have AS too but his also seemed very mild because I hardly saw any of the symptoms in him. He was very rigid about rules and he gets irritated when people don't stick to doing what they say they are going to do and he doesn't like it when people interupt his routine.

The only people who know I have it are other people who have it, and my immediate family, and specialists such as psychologists, doctors, and educators. But I'm thinking about telling my girlfriend and some point if we're together long enough in the future. We've been going out for a long ass time at this point, and she's going to school to be a psychologist, so maybe it would be good for her to know so she can be more knowledgeable about that aspect of psychology. Also she's the closest relationship I've had with any of my girlfriends so far. As far as everyone else in the world goes, I don't think I'm coming out about it anytime soon if ever. The name "asperger's" is painful enough as I've stated in past forums. It doesn't matter to my friends anyway, it's not like it's noticeable. It's not like I have autism.

not "aspie",but am tend not to need to do any of the telling as people know when they see am [well those that know autism anyway,ignorants have classed am as 'mentally ill' to 'pyscho' to 'ret*d'],have had strangers come up and ask staff if am autistic,and then find out they have autistic children.
when have been out in taxis,that is probably one of the most common times it had to be said,as they turn music on which am cannot cope with in enclosed spaces,staff just say am autistic and have a major problem with sound,so they turn it off.