Can you manipulate your feelings?

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I have a question that can sound a bit strange (but on the other hand, where's a better place than this to ask a question of this kind ).

Can you manipulate your emotions to create a feeling you want to experience in the very moment? I'm unsure whether it's clear to you what I am asking about. I rarely experience all those subtle feelings normal people have an access to; I'm more a type of a researcher who derives pleasure from analysing a sensation and reaching its core rather than a person who, having experienced a feeling concentrates on it and derives a pure pleasure of experiencing it.

It's just as if I was simulating an emotion I need to feel - as if I created a mental counterpart of a situation in which that sensation is normally experienced but omiting a mental image of this situation and achieving wanted sensation without imagining how I'd feel in such a situation. What I have in my head seems to be much more real (and more perfect) than normal situations I could experience in the world outside.

Does it happen also in your case?

I am extremely good at this. And the best part is, my mom almost always falls for it if I want something specific in particular. Unfortunately, sometimes it backfires and I really start experiencing that feeling after a bit (like if I'm upset).

sadly...me
no

i cannot control my emotions well, nor am i good at hiding them....

no..if every one could controll their emotions meldowns would be history...(almost)

In a meltdown you'd not be conscious enough about what is happening to control it, otherwise it isn't a meltdown? You have to be aware enough of what is happening to be able to control your behaviour.

I think I can sometimes do what you do, imagine a situation. It's also more or less how I 'feel into' someone else, by imagining I was in their position in their story. I think many actors use similar techniques to invoke feelings required for a scene.

Emotional feelings are not sensations in the sense that an emotion is not literally. Feelings are more an epiphany that compels a person to act. For example, contentment compels a person to maintain the status quo and to seek pleasure in what they currently have. Love compels a person to seek out the loved one's company, to protect the loved one, etc. Fear signals danger and compels a person to minimize it. Frustration signals one's goals are not being met, which compels a more forceful strategy. Loneliness compels one to seek out the company of others. Boredom induces one to seek out more activity and different experiences.

I know what you want to say but English is not my native language so I encounter some problems with semantic subtleties of differences of meanings. Anyway, thanks for correcting.

I guess can manipulate my feelings just the other day my friend was trying to help me calm down and relax so I could do A vocal exercise that I have trouble with so she was rubbing my back which was comforting for A while but then I made myself freak out so it cessed to be comforting.

lol...so u were like i like this then second later...arrgh

just recently i was so emotionally attached to a girl i was seein. she told me it wuldnt work out and made it clear, but she still wanted to be friends. den one day i jus decided to stop callin, and blocked her out of her mind like she didnt exist. i made all the strong feelings and emotions i had for her just dissapear. she was prob wonderin how i culd jus do dat.

Zwerfbeertje,
Well, I CAN create such feelings. I do it by remembering a time I was laughing real wildly, was very sad, very happy, or angry, and basically living through it again.

As for something like where I REALLY like a woman that doesn't like me, or is married, etc..., I do the opposite. I basically see all the problems she has, and pollute my memory with that. I only had to do that a few times. For some reason, my desire was deeper in some ways when I was younger.

I've done dat a couple of times to get ova a girl

I think it's a great question. I'm incapable of manipulating my feelings.

People always say "Oh just get over it" or "Don't feel bad". Right, like I have any power over my feelings. Wish I did. I see some of you have figured out how to do it and I'll try to remember the strategies for next time (which should be in the next half hour or so).

I try hard to do this... sometimes I just can't do that though. When it comes to simple feelings such as - frustration and fear, when it comes to simple concepts such as work for instance (for me academics), I sometimes just can't motivate myself to feel good about it... lol

hm. i dont really know, ocassionally i pretend about wierd things that make me sad so maybe