Anyone else experience this...
Hi,
I experience feelings at a high intensity e.g. I am either extremely happy, extremely angry, anxious or neutral, wherein, I feel nothing at all, and these can occur rapidly.
I also have difficulty trying to determine what I am feeling as happiness, anger and anxiety produce the same physical feeling (weird feeling in my stomach), some days I walk around for an entire day like this trying to logical deduce what occurred for my body to react in that way.
Regarding saddness, I cry uncontrollably when someone I know has died or if I have been called something unkind, but for some reason I don't feel sad because there is no weird physical feeling accompanying it. Other than these instances I don't tend to get emotional and have been told by people that I am phlegmatic and 'twisted' because I don't react appropriately when required.
I would like to know if someone else experiences this as I feel rather abnormal. Also, does any of what I have described apply to AS, reason I ask, is that I have been advised to get a re-assessment for AS and would like to know whether this is part of it.
Thank you.
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I don't know that these are specific to Aspie's
My wife used to think I was Manic-Depressive because I would 'lose it' and get very loudly angry. Never striking out towards people, just loud, stomping around, sometimes busting up something I was trying to fix/make. After the outburst, I could carry on as if nothing happened. I felt like that was normal... why continue to be angry once the feelings have subsided?
This also occurred when we argued. We could raise our voices, even yell at each other, but when the argument was over, I would change and act like nothing was wrong, she would continue to be pissed.
As for the crying...
I have always been prone to crying... at things that make me sad.
But, I've always wondered/worried at the types of things I cry about...
-Movies and songs (doesn't everyone?)
-Stories in the news about a terrible incident, usually involving a close rescue. Especially if there were details about the rescue itself.
-Talking with people about personal issues, which I tended to get myself into too often. I have always sought someone to tell my problems to in the hopes they might have an answer.
-Just about anything special my daughter does.
It's not just that I cry... it's how easy it is for me to start, and when everyone else around me isn't crying.
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After years of attempting to consign my emotions to entee terminoligy, I have concluded that I probably don't even have exactly the emotional set of entees. Part of my problem is that since mine are not the same as enteeshow can I use their terms to label my emotions or how I may deal with them.
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Some songs, and movies can induce strong emotional responses, usually sadness due to a loss of some type. I've suspected I'm not able to be jealous, I know what it is, yet I don't get the emotive response others expect. I recognize the the components, the girl whom shows a flittering interest, shows up with a male friend and plays him off as her friend. I just get angered/disappointed because she thinks I didn't know better, and of course, since I don't respond- she gets upset.
Non-verbal cues of anger and hurt I respond to in excess, I'm well versed in them; attraction, desire for intimacy, I am unable to detect.
I'm usually figuring out what was what later and mostly in hind sight, leaving me distraught, miserable for (retreating and) clamming up when I can't find the words.
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I don't recognize flirting... or at least I've been told so.
I just figure women are being nice to me, not necessarily desiring anything from me.
Sometimes I'll have a woman approach me, and afterwards I'll sit there and mull over whether she was flirtiing with me or not.
It helps to have a friend who was witness and can tell me.
I can't say that I have ever had feelings of jealousy towards anyone concerning relationships.
When I'm done with a relationship, I think it's great if the other person finds someone they can get along with.
I tend to get very strongly attached to certain people and even go overboard when trying to show them how much I like/love them.
I'm working on that issue currently since I almost lost a good friendship over it.
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pixie-bell,
it seen as being part of,or accompanying asd [think it has a name of its own now,alexithmia?],was told by several specialists it was part of am autism.
am unable to recognise what am feeling,so it makes no sense to am when people ask if am 'happy' or 'okay',some people who do not know am well automatically assume am okay as most of the speech am have is echolalia and palilalia,so they assume any reply is good reply.
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