Therapist question

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my parents say i need it, but i dont really want to. should i go?

Do you mind telling why they think you need to and why you don't?

My personal experience is that I am glad to have gone to folks who would listen to me without regurgitating all the same old suggestions the regular people in my life did.

But, then again, I had to tell my story over&over&over& painfully over again until I did finally find two therapists who I think understand me and do good work with me (emphasis on the with, because I have always known I was in control of what went on in the sessions).

Anyway, without some background (doesn't have to be too specific), I can't really give you any more opinion than that above.

Just remember, going to see someone does not mean you are broken. Take it as an opportunity to be able to open up about all the stuff inside you know no one currently in your life will understand or accept.

If you are so amazingly, stunningly fortunate as to have both the means to pay for it and a therapist in reasonable commute who is actually decent, you should consider it. However:

1. If the therapist is someone you know upon meeting you will never trust or like, it's not real likely they can do you much good. Advice is only taken from people you have adequate reason to believe, and a piece of paper isn't enough.

2. 3/3 that I had to see were too flaky to hold a normal conversation with - I was not going for a diagnosis of being other than NT, so maybe you'll have better luck. But even my mother, who is fairly hard to convince that the nice, patronizing medical professional doesn't necessarily know best, agreed after actually trying to talk to them. So if you do agree to go, insist on looking till you find someone who knows what they're doing.

3. Do they want you to go for you, or for them? And if it's for them, will it make them feel better enough to be worth the inconvenience? Also, it is not uncommon for therapy/counseling to be a family thing and not an individual thing. It may be that you go, and they're also told to modify some behaviors.

I hope that helps. Mostly, just think about it and try to sort out both sets of consequences for all the people directly affected.

I go see a therapist, but hes a therapist specialized in Autism, and thats the main reason I'm going to see him, to get tips or ideas on how help some of my traits of autism, like mostly sensory stuff.

A therapist doesn't always mean like oh im a kook, now i have to go see a therapist to tell me more about how im a kook hahaha. I thought like that, until I started realizing I needed help with my sensory problems and other problems like affection, and missing social cues, and sleep problems, that I looked for a therapist who specializes in Autism to help. After I started seeing him, he helped me a lot!

I am beginning therapy this coming week at a place that specializes in both research and care for autism and a.s.. It was at the insistence of a close friend, who took the time and trouble to understand me, and see this for what it is. I know there are things that i can't change about me, those things will be made clear to me, i'm sure. what i hope to get out of it is the things that i can try to change or at least alter enough to grow out of isolation and this self-pity crap i'm stuck in right now. it's frustrating when i see now how things i do due to lack of social skills is hard on relationships and losing friends to ignorance is something i won't allow to happen. now if a.s. becomes a barrier to change, then i suppose that is part of the acceptance that will have to be done when all alternatives have been exhausted. If you have the means or ability to at least get some kind of reduced rate, as i did, then it's worth a shot.

Well for therapy to be effectiv eyou'd likely need to want to go..because well if you aren't motivated, you won't be changing much anyway.

MAKE SURE your therapist of choice has a working knowledge of ASDs or you're wasting your time.
If possible, try psychotherapy. For auties, it's considered the best form. Also, recommend to your therapist to slowly work into deeper emotional issues. Autites are frequently scared off by therapists who go too deep to fast.

do think actually need it?
parents can make out problems to be worse than they are,usually because it affects them more than the person with the problems themselves,so they don't always know best.

if do think have problems that could do with some professional help,go,but don't be forced into something if not good about it,it depends on whether are child or adult,as parents can't force an adult to go to appointments can they?
well,unless they have been given control through courts due to child not having enough mental capacity.