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24 Sep 2007, 1:17 am

If You were Normal, what would your Life be like?

I felt Bad when at age 22 I wasn't able to go to Prague to Westernize it the way most College Students did in 1992.

My dad laughed at me and said that I could have gone to Prague, supposing that I wasn't Normal. I felt embarrassed.

I also think I would have been the model/actress and in Fashion Merchandising if I was Normal.

LOL.



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24 Sep 2007, 1:55 am

This is my Authentic Life.

Your dad shouldn't be making fun of you. I didn't go to Prague either, I had better things to do. It was satisfying though, as throughout puberty I'd had debates with my father about these countries having to, going to, change from within - in my opinion. And I was Right :D



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24 Sep 2007, 2:32 am

Oh..I dunnow...I guess I woulda driven a car, gone to college...um...have a normal job....stuff like that...Probably be married with kids or something....blah...
or maybe i woulda done better with my musical career without all the soical ineptitude and disorganization getting in the way.
Who knows?



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24 Sep 2007, 7:29 am

poopylungstuffing wrote:
Oh..I dunnow...I guess I woulda driven a car, gone to college...um...have a normal job....stuff like that...Probably be married with kids or something....blah...
or maybe i woulda done better with my musical career without all the soical ineptitude and disorganization getting in the way.
Who knows?


Okay, well, granted I'm 17 I can't go to college yet or marry, I do have a car, I learned to drive and have a license and I do have a part-time job. I've also been in a romantic relationship for 2 years, I think anyone can do the 'normal' stuff.


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24 Sep 2007, 8:12 am

I got a car, went to college, have a job. . anyone want my job? jobs are so over rated. I had a 'normal' life because no one 'diagnosed' me. I didn't know I couldn't do all those things so I just did normal things my way.

I know we are all on a spectrum, and some are more obstructed than others, but I am very glad I didn't have people thinking I needed to be limited by some arbitrary diagnostic list of what I 'could' and 'could not' do.

Why limit yourself to other people's assumptions of what Asperger's Syndrome is or isn't?
Just go out there and live. . .

I mean, I did and I haven't died yet from trying to do something I 'couldn't'.

Merle

PS there is a part of me that is disgusted about thinking OUR Asperger's Syndrome lives are some how not 'authentic'. How much of the koolaid have you been drinking to think normal is authentic and the rest of us are somehow 'fake'?



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24 Sep 2007, 8:12 am

If I were normal, I wouldn't be me, so I can't even think about how to answer that particular question.

On the other hand, if I had known about AS before I went to college, I would have been more able to forgive myself for my social and educational difficulties, and would have gotten much better grades and been much happier.



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24 Sep 2007, 8:55 am

i agree with you sinsboldly and i dont let the problems i have stop me from trying (and the main reson i keep my diagnosis to myself is cus i dont want to be treated differently)

but realistically if i dident have my social problems (including being shy) id probably have a girlfriend and a band


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24 Sep 2007, 2:12 pm

I only discovered the autistc spectrum stuff a few yars ago...and I am not diagnosed. I attributed my diffculties to ADD..but I never intentionally tried to limit myself...there ARE things, however that are truely difficult for me.

I have actually held lots of jobs...I tried to be as dependable an employee as possible..and have been fired from some and have been given special treatment at others...but i have always worked.

Right now I don't have a normal job..I run a performance and arts space and work for a small internet herbal company...which is much much better than having a normal job.

I have tried and tried and tried...and I cannot drive a car. I imagine that if i did not have my spatial and anxiety issues,then I would be able to. i am terrible at visually judging distance vs. speed. I have spent the majrity of my life riding a bike everywhere.

i did not go to college for very long for reasons having to do with money disorganization and anxiety. The fact that it takes me twice as long as the average person to complete an assignment because I have a really bad filtering system..made going to school and working at the same time quite difficult. The only place I could go was community college, where I was a speck of nothingness adrift pointlessly in an ocean...and I was paying all this money in order to make c's in classes that didn't seem like they were doing anything for me...it was like paying lots of money to go to high school all over again but with even MORE social isolation...

I have had lots of long term relationships..I just don't have the traditional goals of marriage/children...

What i meant to say with my original post, is that I guess I would be alot more like everybody else...or more like my NT younger sister..who drives and holds a normal job.



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24 Sep 2007, 2:17 pm

I too drive, in a relationship, and do other things that are considered normal, but.. I think if I didn't have autism, I would have already got my bachelors degree, and have a decent job right now :oops: .


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24 Sep 2007, 8:33 pm

Cooper wrote:
If I were normal, I wouldn't be me, so I can't even think about how to answer that particular question.

On the other hand, if I had known about AS before I went to college, I would have been more able to forgive myself for my social and educational difficulties, and would have gotten much better grades and been much happier.


yeah, I tell myself that too, Coop. . . of how life could have been had I known before I was married, or even while I was trying to keep my kids. and sometimes make up a story of how much better it would have been had this magic wand of a diagnosis been waived over my head and I was instantly transformed from hopeless geek to suave Asperger's Syndrome diagnosee. . . :roll:


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24 Sep 2007, 8:40 pm

I feel that I would be allot better in terms of friends and romance, and also financially. As for anything else I don't know.



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24 Sep 2007, 9:09 pm

sometimes i get house jelouse, sometimes i dont. independence for me anyways is not thinking what i could have been like but rather, i do the best that i can. being a man all the time is highly overrated! shure i could live like a gangster, oh no. there are more important things in life than being a gangbanger and chopping up people and hiding them in the matress like drug money.

things like, ichiro. and sportscards for that matter. i know what i want, and go right for the win with the most valuable things in my life.
nobody likes it? thats alright. i dont care.

the point is daydreaming is very cool! but not about something you wish you were


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25 Sep 2007, 8:59 am

If I were normal, I'd probably be a lot less nervous before crucial events, such as a job interview and would be able to promote myself better.