What to say when they tell me I need to change my attitude?

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Can someone think of a witty come back?

"Maybe you should change yours instead, as*hole."

I like "f**k you" but it doesn't really help anything.

Any clever response will do no good, because "you have a bad attitude" just means "you aren't being meek enough toward me."

I ignore it.

That about sums it up, yes.

You're also screwed if they tell you you're "in denial."

Having said that, and without knowing anything about your circumstance, it's actually possible that you could have a bad attitude.

Since you asked.

But I suppose you could agree with them, and do so in a pleasant, friendly way, which would in itself disprove them.

"Maybe you should shut up" would be a good response

What I usually answer when someone acts like they know better than me what I should do / how I should behave is:


A) Greentea, you have to change your attitude.
Me) Ok, would you like us to make a list of what we don't like in each other and then we change according to the other's wish list?
A) Grrrrr

Greentea scores!

I was thinking along the lines of; "If people were more willing to accept those who are different, I wouldn't need to change my whole personality to be just like you."

I like yours better though, Greentea!

I think my reply is quite obvious. If they want me to change to suit them, then they have to be willing to make efforts to change to suit me too.

Problem is we aspies are too convinced that others are perfectly fine as they are. So we let them corner us.

When someone asks you for something that implies making an effort to please them, you are entitled to ask the same from them.

I meant to say, my reply would come naturally to us if we didn't always function from a complex of imperfection.

"You just have to stop being a big baby and accept people as they are, or commit to help them become better people, it's one thing to criticize me for not having the right attitude, it's another to tell me how I come off around people and how to fix it."

We could shorten that to, "Why can't you accept me for who I am?"


Not bad.... short and sweet. I kinda' like it.

That's being defensive, and though I don't see why, NTs reject defensive people. Hypocrisy and passive-aggressive is acceptable to them.

People are always telling me that I am being too "negative". I just tell them that "at least I'm being real and am not in denial like the rest of you!".

"This is just the way I am - deal with it!"