The Aspie blending with the NT

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I have dealt with many people who haven't been diagnosed with AS but fit most of the descriptions. Just like most Aspies, they seem to NOT GET THE MESSAGE that part of the reason they have problems with friendships and relationships is that they don't understand that blending in is important and also analyzing other people.

Trying to blend in took most of the energy that used to be dedicated for schoolwork. I got to admit, I try to make it hard for people to know me b/c I don't do well in groups and am always ripped apart or excluded. Anyway, what's helped me is to copy some of my friends' (the two I got are 17 and 20) interests and ways of dressing along with being cautious of what I'm saying. That meant suppressing a lot of my complicated speech that most if not all Aspies have even though I do sound crude sometimes.

At this moment of my life, I am lost with my sexuality (I'm a bi guy) and working hard to also suppress any possible mannerisms to appear normal. Relationships for me are out of the question b/c of how much energy I dedicated to blending in. It's been worth it.

If you're saying what I think you're saying: sounds kind of like a prescription for ending up burned out, and graduating from college with a C average (I'd know).

Good luck man. Trying to fully blend in has got to be the toughest way for us aspies to interact w/ NTs. I don't think I've heard of anybody that's been able to pull it off in the long run, but if u can, let us know.

After I (correctly) diagnosed the relationship between war and communism and the effect that it would have on the world when Communism ended, my father said I shouldn't tell anyone and just be normal. I learned but he did not that The sufferers do not appreciate an accurate diagnosis and will probably kill you for trying to tell them.

Just be normal and Be a Man (in my case he would correct himself and say Be a Ma... Behave!) were told to me over and over growing up. I think I sort of passed as NT. I think I am kind of successful passing but I consciously knew that something was up with me because of how other people were and I wasn't really but usually people were too busy laughing at what I said to mind. I remember the positiveness of mundane moments more than the hours and years of horrible treatment. The horrible treatment is like a history book that lies open on the table but I haven't internalized it but if you don't feel pain then you lose out on the human experience so I practice like method acting and imagine how an NT would react. And let me be an NT and ask "do you do that?" I notice how aspies don't ask politely in kind but are tolerant of sharing and don't take posts personally.

I was seven when I told him what would happen to us and I also told him that clothing style affects politics and healing.

Or you could save the energy you would waste on trying to fit in and learn to be happy with yourself.

You know, ever since I was a little girl, some NTs have seen through me and been really nice to me. There are smart astute NTs who just stare at me in silence for a long time and I let them stare and then they just laugh and are really nice to me. I don't mind being stared at. But that has always happened throughout my life so that has really given me a reserve of self confidence and optimism.