Some people you can just talk to... others you can't.

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I'm not even talking about connecting with people or anything... just random people you might have to talk with.

I haven't noticed it much, until I started tutoring.

Some, everything just flows naturally... I find most of the words I want to use. I say funny things... I even notice my inflection is changing to help them understand better. I slow down, and put emphasis on words that are really important. What's becoming even more apparent... I know when to apply a little force in my tone to get them to understand better. Or something I'm calling creative indifference... where they want me to basically do all the work for them...but I won't have any part in it.

Others, nothing flows between our brains. I stutter, I forget words that I want to use... I use really strange phrases to describe the simplest things. I actually end up talking more.

I don't even know what the cause is... it could be completely random. But I doubt it... I think I just have to accept it's difficult for me to communicate with some.

Yes, I definitely know what you mean. I tutored psychology and physics and there were definitely issues like you describe.

I can rarely approach a stranger, let along get talking to most people, lol. But I have noticed that with some, there is like a barrier there almost, and came to figure that we must maybe pick up subconsciously on the other person's own inhibitions etc?
I can only really interract with those I can be totally open and honest with, including my more childish side.

I find it easier to talk to people who don't intimidate me - not sure exactly why
I find some less intimidating,perhaps if they show signs of vulnerability or seem
more approachable when I see them speaking to others.

At work in the past I've connected best with colleagues who originally came from other countries in Europe or even just different parts of the UK because I can empathise with them being different.

They r sum ppl in work i get on very well n they don't mind if i have AS as they fink im very bright however sum ppl make me feel very uncomfortable dis is wen me autism starts 2 appear n i start 2 Stutter n lose me voice a bit.

Yes, some people I can actually talk to for hours, but for others even a couple of words is a problem. I think it's to do with how worried I am that the person is going to think I'm insane, based on past experience. My brother's girlfriend is the worst - she's so over the top happy and wants to hug me even though we don't really know each other. I find her terrifying.

I can usually get on with most people (for example, in a work situation) but there would be some effort involved sometimes, so it would be exactly smooth interraction.
You know sometimes when you meet people and you just 'click' with them, and you seem to be on the same wavelength? I love it when that happens, but it doesn't happen that often. I find being jokey helps with a lot of people but if I try it with others they just think I'm an idiot, lol.

Same here. At work though is usually the only place I am to talk to anyone. There are some people I click with and some people I can talk to after I know them for a while or if they just talk to me. Depends too on what's being said. If I'm attracted to someone though, forget it, I can't talk to them at all. I can try and my AS really comes out, my words get choppy and short. There's this one guy at work who I think has AS too and I liked him once, but I think it was his traits and characteristics I was attracted to. He acts like I do when someone acts like they like me, which is very rare and they can forget that too. If they try to talk to me I get all weird and don't want to look at them. They get over me real fast.

I don't mind people like aspies who have clunky social skills. I don't get offended by anything that comes out of their mouths. I don't have a problem talking to anyone nor did my aspie dad. I have noticed that the funnest pals for me are smart straight males who like to talk. I like nice women but I generally like them without having anything to say to them and yes, I am a female. I like Amy Sedaris plenty but I wouldn't know what to say to her.