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Do you ever find people get mad at you for being honest in other internet groups? I seem to just make everyone angry. I guess when someone complains about X, Y or Z, I'm not very good at just saying "I understand, you're right..."...Instead, I read what they say and tell them what I think...which 99% of the time, makes someone angry.

Example, in another group a woman complained about an HFA child (her husband's child) and how everything he did was horrible, and how he wasn't potty trained, and how he didn't talk, and how it was the mother's fault, etc...not once did she ask for "advice" on how to deal with it...Not once did she ask if this was normal...Instead, her entire post was about how all this autism stuff is made up, how the kid understands her and just chooses not to, how the mother created this, etc...by the way, the poor child is only 3!

I don't think I said anything mean, but I did tell her that before judging the mother or child, she needed to do some research on the subject...and also offered her the "10 things every child with autism wishes you knew" list...

She was OFFENDED...so was everyone else! They all just told me off because I didn't just say "I understand...you are right..." and they told me that they were there for support not for someone to judge them!! ! hmmm...excuse me?

Again, I don't see how I was judging her...she made her point clear and I told her she needed to do some research...

However, this seems to be a constant problem with me and other groups...except of course, one of my favorites which is a "freethinking unschoolers" group...

Other than that, it seems that NTs get so greatly offended by anything...all they want to hear is "it's ok...you're right"...

Sorry to ramble...I just wonder if anyone else has this issue.

People hate me.

I get it.....

I have been accused of being "passive aggressive" in a Parents of children with Asperger's group and banned from the group because I was honest, while providing support... *shakes head*

Have I mentioned that I hate people?

I would have done the same thing most likely with telling her to research more. I understand the frustration she has, but only to a degree. Sounds to me like she would rather just stay complaining all of the time rather than to have to learn something and learn how to deal with it.

I always make people mad. I used to be on a forum, and I thought I offered a lot of insight at times, but they hated me no matter what I said, lol. Even when I said "okay, I get what you mean, but this is another way to look at it maybe..." So even saying "you are right", it seems more or less they just want to gripe or need to vent, but don't actually want solutions because they aren't seeking them to begin with.

Same here! I also experience this often in regular groups in person! It is amazing how people cannot handle blatant honesty. They would much rather reside in a state of peaceful denial! In addition, those of us who are open, honest, and aware, are considered crass revolutionaries who stir up trouble!

You're required to agree with what is being said and post a smiley face.

probably the only way I narrowly escape the death trap on some of these forums is by posting emoticons! Otherwise I would be considered a beast.

That's funny actually...I go in there hoping that people who actually have AS/HFA can give me their viewpoint...not necessarily someone who doesn't have HFA/AS. Because every HFA/AS is different, I can see many similarities between my son and I, however, I can see some things that are different and I hope that someone with AS/HFA says something that I can assist my son with...interesting...

Glad to know it's not just me! hehe... Honestly, not that I much care most of the time...I just usually give them one last "piece of my mind" and excuse myself from the group...hehe...but I was really wondering if it was just me because of me, or if it was more related to the AS/HFA...