Social vs. Intimacy

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What type of situation do you find more difficult to handle; the social world such as work, outings, etc. or intimate relations, such as boyfriend/girlfriend, intimate talks, friendships, family, etc?

Family has always been a struggle. I'm fine with my husband and kids. Social situations I struggle with.

I can handle both of them equally well.

Tim

Depends on the social situation. With people who seem relatively intelligent, I don't have much of a problem, although large numbers of people I don't know can still be tough. Less intelligent people, I think because I relate to them less, are a lot harder, and I tend to avoid those situations.
Family's mostly fine, I think.

im fine in social situations, so long as the other person is ready to do most of the talking, but still let me speak

Social is harder than intimate for me. I'm usually the one sitting there not saying much. I'm not very good at making myself feel included.

Social stuff is generally quite predictable, but that's not to say predictable so therefore easy to suss...
It can be tedious and fatiguing... and create much paranoia... can be so draining and turn you into a zombie sometimes... social stuff can be fantastic, or pretty horrible...
It tends to remain pretty conservative the social situations... confirming what I mean by predictability - if you are stuck in a rut and can't at a time find a way around it, then it sucks... it's gonna stay the same for a day or 2 or whatever until you change the situation...
If it's going well, again predictable - it can keep on rolling successfully.

As for relationships well... that's a little different: -
It's not at all predictable... but, in a sense, kinda similar to social situations, it can be your best friend or your worst enemy...
Of course I have a lot less experience on this matter and I am currently not in a relationship so I can't give much of a strong oppinion on this matter like I've given on solely social situations lol.

I have trouble with communicating with family, but it's likely exacerbated by their own agendas. I tend to stick with one friend at a time that I know really, really well, and anyone new in just about any social situation tends to make me anxious. The only person I really tend not to have trouble with in the sense that I'm comfortable around them no matter what is that friend, and everyone else is uncomfortable for me to be around.Especially attractive members of the opposite sex. I haven't been in a relationship for about seven years and I haven't been on a date in around five.

I'm passable in social situations. I definately prefer intimate relations.

Good with intimate, terrible with social.

I keep friends for years, I just have difficulty making new ones.

I can fake the social for short periods of time. I've never succeeded in ever even having an initmate relationship for me to handle so I don't know whether I'd be good at handling it or not.

I handle both situtations with equal levels of 'I have no idea what to do'. I think social is a little easier because its a lot easier to fake it. I fake it every day at the office I work in. It mostly consists of smiling, nodding, and saying "Is that so?"

Social is easier. For me, the intimate is tougher but also more rewarding when I succeed at it.

Moderate with intimate relationships, including family.
Terrible with social relationships (I'm the one in the corner reading or staring at the wall).

difficult to 'handle'. i see your primary input system is touch.
i find this an anathema, mine happens to be visual, and i think 'in pictures', so i dont think we're going to get along. dont let this weigh you down too heavily though, it's not something that matters. i cannot get a grasp on what you mean, but don't worry its not too heavy we can all float on anyway.

I find them to be both equally difficult for different reasons, which I am too tired to get into right now...