do you recognize personal space?

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I know one trait of children with AS is a lack of understanding about personal space. How many of you out there have problems with this? I personally know how far away to stand from someone when I'm talking to them, but on the other hand, I have a saying about people getting close to me. I put my arm out straight and say "if I can touch you, you're too close". Do you think you start to learn as you grow up what is comfortable for you and others?

I am very good at recognizing it.

Tim

I think everyone ELSE has this problem. I tend to stay like 3 feet away from others, and RESENT it when they invade my space. BTW Autistic people in general often don't like being touched, etc... so it can obviously be either way.

Sometimes when I'm not paying attention I don't regard personal space... sometimes I don't regard it because I'm reaching out to people for closeness... most of the time I regard it, I think.

I know where my boundaries are, and they're typically further than others. As for guessing about other people, I'm always confused about proper proximity, body language, etc.

I recognize personal space. Actually, I think I tend to sit/stand too far away sometimes.

BTW, there's nothing worse than standing in line somewhere and having the person behind you stand like 6 inches away.

i've had complaints of this before and I equally hate it when someone comes to my room or just tries to interact with me when I dont feel up to it. I usually dont notice if im getting in someone's space till they tell me.

I work on a repulsion system. If they are too close to me, then I am probably too close to them.

I dont usually have an issue with ME invading other peoples space. Much more the reverse, and i will go to ludicrous lengths to get away.

I'm really not sure on this one. I know that I HATE when people get too close to me or don't go away when I want them to, yet I have no idea whether or not I do the same thing. Nobody has ever told me or made it obvious.

The amount of personal space you feel comfortable with depends on your race, seriously. Westerners normally need about three feet but people from the Middle East normally operate with a lot less than this. I found this out during an embassy reception in Kuwait when I noticed that all the Westerners were pinned with their backs against the wall and all of the Arab guests were facing the them. I mentioned it to one of the embassy staff and they told me the theory.

Ed Almos

My son has a really hard time with this. He will walk up and randomly hug people he doesn't know sometimes It's difficult explaining, because he is doing it in an attempt to show them that he likes them and doesn't really understand what is wrong with it.

There have been times when people tell me I'm too close to them, and I'm not good with physical contact. I feel uncomfortable when people physically touch me and I don't tend to come into contact other people unless it is somewhat expected.

I think I'm good at it with people I grow and fixation/obsession/attraction to like basically that girl I'm after - we aspies seem to have a way with the things we're attached to...
Other than that I'm not sure if it's either my lack of understanding or my very common anxiety stress and such but I don't know if I'm particularly good at it with other people.

I don't have a problem with invading others' personal space, but I'm uncomfortable when people invade mine.