Do People Ever Accuse You Of Staring At Them?

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People used to say that in conversations all the time when I was younger. "Please stop staring at me."

I'm not, I wanted to tell them. I'm just looking. Is that staring? How else are you supposed to keep eye contact?

Ya man, a few times, due to not understanding how much eye contact is approrpiate while talking and even when just looking around maby ill catch something or someone and look at them or some object for whatever reason and eather ill be seen stairing at them (maby notice somethin odd about them, clothing, hair cut, whatever...) or because that object that got my attemtion was nearby them they may assume I was looking at them when I was looking past them.

Heh, I make spiratic eye contact when in conversation.

I used to have that problem.

I think it might have as much to do with expression as well. If you don't smile and you maintain eye contact, it's seen as intimidating.

After much practice, you kind of get into the habit of smiles, nods, looking away at scenery for a while then returning back to eye contact.

Basically, they want you to look at them and nod if you agree with what they are saying. When you talk, gesture a bit, cast your attention around the room or horizon a little, as if what you're saying isn't that important. But then listen to them when they respond with smiles and nods.

It's like a ratio that you have to fine tune and you should judge how far you go one way or the other on a situational basis.

...Oh, and mirroring. If someone smiles when talking to you, smile in pretty much the same way. If it's subtle, you smile subtly, if it's broad, go fairly broad (but don't over do it). If they are saying something serious and not smiling, don't smile. All in all, try to follow their gestures, but in a slightly more subdued fashion.

I don't know how many times people have literally done that slow wave right in front of my face to see if I'm still conscious.

If I had better reflexes, I'd have administered so many bitch-slaps...

I don't like staring at people. Although if someone stares at me for a long time, I stare back at them as if telling them to stop. They almost always get the message.

Sometimes I think I stare without even realizing it

I do both. Either I stare too much, or look uninterested. Then again, I often am uninterested. The funny thing is that my level of interest seems fully unrelated to the staring.

I've recently started fixing my eyes steadily at one point of a person's face, like one eye, or between the eyes, as an experiment, just to see what difference it makes.

I had a flatmate that used to say I stared at her legs, she was slim and a wonderful shape. She called me gay cos I stared, I'm not but yes occasionally I like a good look at people and can't help glaring!!

Yes. This has happened to me on occasion.

I'm glad it's not just me. It's so hard to look interested, when, in order to do so, you have to look uninterested. But only to a certain point. Grr.

The problem is we probably don't realize if we do it or not. Most people will be too polite to say anything.

It happens to me a lot.
Usually, most of the people I "look" at are too freaked out to say anything to me.

Sometimes I stare at people I love, as a way of showing affection. My dad has teasingly dubbed this behavior "perching", as in the way a vulture perches beside its prey.

People accuse me of not staring enough. I have always had great difficulty with eye contact. And I have learned not to stare at girls because it may turn them away and/or scare them.