How do I get my ego bruised?

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My ego has been bruised in the past. That let me to accomplish a lot of things I wouldn't have accomplished otherwise. Right now, I'm an underachiever and would like to find the motivation to get a lot of things done. The problem, is that now I am a very wise person, and even though I've been through countless humiliations in recent years, my ego doesn't get bruised the way it used to. I'll even go as far as to say that my ego doesn't get bruised at all.

I want to be that immature teenager who went the extra mile to humiliate his detractors and prove them wrong.

Any suggestions?

Perhaps you're ready to be motivated by something other than pain?

You're a lazy, unmotivated piece of crap and YOU ALWAYS WILL BE.

That help?

Sorry, just kidding.

Actually I know what you mean. For me, it's more that I have that activist side of me that gets angry over injustices and wants to take action. But that's a defensive way of living, and I guess we should be living offensively...

I guess there are a lot of motivations similar to proving jerks how wrong they were to bruise your ego. Such as activism, or maybe going beyond proving people wrong and proving that you are worthwhile. Impressing people with your talents. I mean, not that you should live to impress people necessarily, but to SHARE your talents with people I guess...

Yeah I don't know. I think I relate, though.

Maybe the problem is that you don't have any respect for your critics. If someone you held in high esteem were to become critical of you that might be a lot more damaging?

i don't feel like i have that much of an ego..ergo..not much there to get bruised.
Of course, it doesn;t help much with self-esteem either.

As a kid I was exactly the same way as you were, Mw99! Now I'm a lot happier though... I find positive motivation. Proving them wrong doesn't have to be negative. You don't have to feel bad while you're doing it. All you're doing is making them understand you better and be happier themselves because perhaps they'll make a new friend out of you.

Maybe you should try and find a carrot to aim for, rather than a stick to run away from?

I've definitly fell flat in the last few years, all my steam is gone and no matter what anbody says I've just thought "so what?" because ultimatly I can't find a reason to say it all matters. I'm still doing my engineering degree and I WANT to complete it but just don't have the motivation, I have 1 year left though so can't stop now. The money from the job will be fantastic (assuming I can get through an interview) but the hours with people will be hell, plus getting a consistent sleeping pattern for a day job is something I've tried and failed many times. Overall I'm not exactly unhappy about all of this, I just feel more and more switched off lately.