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29 Nov 2017, 7:56 am

People seem to want to be popular and want group approval. It's tiresome. You do the best you can and don't worry what someone else thinks.



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29 Nov 2017, 8:03 am

As someone who has portrayed a Q from Star Trek
for over 20 years as a way of expressing my creativity,
I had a bracelet made with the following Q quote:

"It's difficult to work in a group when you're omnipotent."



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29 Nov 2017, 8:07 am

That's cool, Phoenix.



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29 Nov 2017, 8:10 am

I've often wondered if some aspies focus too much on alpha type popular people, wanting to be like them, and then having a bad experience when that fails. While basically ignoring the existence of all the unpopular low profile people around them.



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29 Nov 2017, 8:11 am

They call me Omega Man.



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29 Nov 2017, 8:19 am

EzraS wrote:
I've often wondered if some aspies focus too much on alpha type popular people, wanting to be like them, and then having a bad experience when that fails. While basically ignoring the existence of all the unpopular low profile people around them.

Indeed. I never wanted to be like the "popular people."
Popular people, it seemed, are only popular to themselves. They're exclusionary by nature, so vastly outnumbered by "unpopular" people who don't even like them. The concept just does not compute for me.
I think there's a difference between wanting to be "popular" and seeking group approval, Vs being self-conscious when around others. They're both caring about what people think in a way, but seem to come from different motivations.


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29 Nov 2017, 8:22 am

Krafty, Christ was the Omega.☺ Adam was the Alpha. Which one prevailed?



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29 Nov 2017, 8:23 am

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I've often wondered if some aspies focus too much on alpha type popular people, wanting to be like them, and then having a bad experience when that fails. While basically ignoring the existence of all the unpopular low profile people around them.


In my experience when I've dressed as Q, or even merely announced my identity as Q when attending a Star Trek event among fans, here's what happened:

1) The alpha-type popular people (those with higher rank aboard ship, especially Captain or above) started acting like they felt threatened or intimidated by me, hence there was some degree of awkwardness or discomfort even with those few who treated me friendly. They tended not to want to hang out with me much, unless they wanted something from me.

2) The unpopular low-profile people (those with the lowest rank or no rank at all, or who didn't care to play the rank game) liked me and were friendly towards me, and I was grateful and happy to reciprocate. We would usually be the ones sitting together, talking, laughing, and having fun.

I thank God for the low-profile people who are willing to be nice to the unpopular high-profile people like me! 8)

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29 Nov 2017, 8:23 am

They call me Rain Man.

(unfortunately)

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29 Nov 2017, 8:24 am

HistoryGal wrote:
That's cool, Phoenix.


Thanks, HistoryGal!

And what has your experience been?



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29 Nov 2017, 8:24 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
They call me Omega Man.


A reference to the movie? 8)



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29 Nov 2017, 8:27 am

xatrix26 wrote:
They call me Rain Man.

(unfortunately)

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I love a rainy day. :)



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29 Nov 2017, 8:41 am

The opposite of Alpha....



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29 Nov 2017, 8:50 am

I care too much about what others think of me. It's part of my subconscious mind. I know I'm an Aspie, but that doesn't mean I can't subconsciously seek social approval.


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29 Nov 2017, 8:50 am

the_phoenix wrote:
In my experience when I've dressed as Q, or even merely announced my identity as Q when attending a Star Trek event among fans, here's what happened:

1) The alpha-type popular people (those with higher rank aboard ship, especially Captain or above) started acting like they felt threatened or intimidated by me, hence there was some degree of awkwardness or discomfort even with those few who treated me friendly. They tended not to want to hang out with me much, unless they wanted something from me.

2) The unpopular low-profile people (those with the lowest rank or no rank at all, or who didn't care to play the rank game) liked me and were friendly towards me, and I was grateful and happy to reciprocate. We would usually be the ones sitting together, talking, laughing, and having fun.

I thank God for the low-profile people who are willing to be nice to the unpopular high-profile people like me! 8)

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Erm ... isn't writing the words "Star Trek event" and "The alpha-type popular people" in one post a basic contradiction in terms? :wink:


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29 Nov 2017, 8:54 am

the_phoenix wrote:
EzraS wrote:
I've often wondered if some aspies focus too much on alpha type popular people, wanting to be like them, and then having a bad experience when that fails. While basically ignoring the existence of all the unpopular low profile people around them.


In my experience when I've dressed as Q, or even merely announced my identity as Q when attending a Star Trek event among fans, here's what happened:

1) The alpha-type popular people (those with higher rank aboard ship, especially Captain or above) started acting like they felt threatened or intimidated by me, hence there was some degree of awkwardness or discomfort even with those few who treated me friendly. They tended not to want to hang out with me much, unless they wanted something from me.

2) The unpopular low-profile people (those with the lowest rank or no rank at all, or who didn't care to play the rank game) liked me and were friendly towards me, and I was grateful and happy to reciprocate. We would usually be the ones sitting together, talking, laughing, and having fun.

I thank God for the low-profile people who are willing to be nice to the unpopular high-profile people like me! 8)

...


I went to a Star Trek event as Kollos once. No one talked to me and I couldn't see what was going on. Every time I took a peek everyone went to the other side of the room.