When you just want to be alone...!

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If someone keeps inviting you out or knocking on your door (dorms can be hell, LOL), how do you tell them to leave you alone without seeming like a jerk?

For a while I shout out that I'm in the shower or something. Or I stay really quiet and pretend I'm not there at all, LOL. But the worst is when I'm face to face with somebody.

Just now, for instance, I was in the kitchen and my very sociable flatmate was being so nice to me by talking to me, and (when I tried to escape to do "homework") saying, "I'll keep my food in the microwave until you get back." (My food was in the oven.) "This way we can eat together!" So I had no choice but to sit and awkwardly converse with her for 30 minutes, which normally would be manageable, but sometimes I just can't be social anymore. I'm sorry!

I've had a really demanding 2 weeks (traveling, going to a concert, both with other people, and then working nonstop on essays and going to classes), and I REALLY need some time to rest my brain, pursue my own interests for a change (I really miss my obsessions, LOL) and STOP SOCIALIZING.

Sorry, can you tell I'm on the verge of a meltdown? LOL. There's probably been a topic about this already, but...

What do you do when you just want to be alone? What do you say?

(Edit: By the way, I just realized that saying traveling and concerts are demanding might sound like I'm complaining about them in a spoiled way, but I don't mean it to sound like that, LOL. I really enjoyed them! I'm just tired afterwards, of course...)

Say exactly that.

"I'm sorry, I enjoy your company but right now I'm a bit stressed and just need to have some time alone. I'm sure you'll understand."

Most times the truth is the best. You don't need to explain more than that. If they ask to talk about it... just say.. maybe later.

Realize, you're not being a jerk. You're not being impolite. Everyone, aspies and NTs, have these needs. Some folks just have more need of it than others. Me, I'm a 6days a week me time person. But watch out on that 7th day.

Though I don't live in a dorm, I too, have this problem with people coming over sometimes, or people wanting me to go out to eat. I just say I'm not in a social type of mood, or that I just cannot handle it right now. Usually they are understanding, since everyone can get stressed and into moods where they want to be left alone.

Yep, I need plenty of alone time, and when someone comes and trys to get me out and doing something when I dont want to often I lie .

I dont want to tell them, no thanks I would rather sit here alone, but ill say that I have things to get done or something like that.

It took me a while to figure out the way to do this, I tend to find people dont like the honest truth from me anyways, so i tell a little white lie and all is good, I hate to do it, but somehow I come off as rude if I tell someone I dont want to go do anything but sit here and chill alone.

Different strokes for different folks...

Yeah, I'm a college freshman, and this is a problem. I mean, people are actually pretty good about it if I say I have a lot of work or am just chilling out - they just go out without me. Sometimes, I actually initiate having lunch with someone or whatever. But sometimes, I just wanna eat a quick lunch by myself, and chill out with a magazine, you know? And in college, that's weird, because you're supposed to do everything with a group and constantly be chatting and having fun, which isn't me. It's by far the hardest part of college for me. At least I like my roommate. But I really need my own space sometimes, so I go home a lot on weekends.